i need a bit of advice.
i've been pimo for a long time and fading more and more.
i occasionally attend for family but never give any answers or actively participate in any way.
I would say, less is more. I dont think social anxiety sound stupid. You could kinda approach it as if your not really sure what’s going on but you don’t feel your normal self, and experience anxiety lately...from life in general, work, etc.- maybe its depression but you just not sure.
Keep focus on your appreciation for his care and concern. I think most the time they need to feel like they’ve encouraged you.
he was basically a good man, just a believer in the religion.
when we were both elders we were best of friends and then things deteriorated when i was not an elder for a while.
then after becoming an elder again, i slowly drifted away from the religion and he drifted further away from me.
Sorry for your loss.🌹
https://nixlaw.com/news/judge-orders-jehovahs-witnesses-to-turn-over-internal-documents-related-to-childhood-sexual-abuse/.
judge orders jehovah’s witnesses to turn over internal documents related to childhood sexual abuse.
april 12, 2018. .
Thanks Barbara for posting.
i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.
on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.
it was not planned, it just happened.
Oh as to your question of if you can call the police if he shows up to your home or office...you should probably be proactive and check with the local authority to find out what options you have.
I would think you might need to show some type of communication that you made it clear to him that you want no further contact... to show police and courts that he is harrassing/stalking you.
i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.
on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.
it was not planned, it just happened.
As it seems your starting to figure out, he has some deep issues, even outside of the religion. I dont even think he fully understand what he wants, which is scary. He seems delusional.
So now its not about the sex, or being your boyfriend, he just wants to be bff's for life. So what happens to you all's friendship when he finds a suitable JW mate?
Once he is baptized, your friendship will be frowned upon because you are considered "wordly", and that's a no no, especially with the opposite sex.
What happened to make him fall out of love with his ex girlfriend of 5 years? And it seems he was hurt because they didn't remain friends?? Well that's not realistic...in the real world there are no guarantees that you will remain friends with your ex.
Another thing, I have a family member that's not baptized and dating a non JW. He respects her and is not expecting her to convert in order for their relationship to move forward. He stop practicing the JW religion (probably because he knows he not following JW rules at the moment), I'm not sure if he'll return if they get married. But the point is he seems to see things for what they are and they both respect each other's religious preference.
Your guy is already pushing the boundaries of the religion...he could very well move forward with you and even eventually marry you (it would be frowned upon like every other thing he is doing, but he wouldn't be the first or last to have done this) but it seems for whatever reason it's not worth it for him. He's definitely coming off unbalanced... start backing away.
i'm pimo, very much against disfellowshipping, and going to a meeting leaves me feeling confused and angry at the best of times.
except an elder asked me on thursday night if i can start giving a ride to a disfellowshipped woman because she lives near me and nobody else from the hall lives in my village.
it seems the elder and his family who have been giving this woman a ride for the past six months can no longer stomach the time it takes them to go out of their way.. i thought all normal publishers weren't to have any contact with disfellowshipped people?
It puts you in a position where you have contact her when your not going to the meeting, so she know not to expect you.. You have to go straight home from the meeting...what if you're not planning to do that. It puts pressure on you because now her spirituality depends on you getting her there.
This is the elder's responsibility, not yours. They are the shepherds. This can go on forever after she is reinstated. What if you plan to fade?
Tell him your uncomfortable doing, it. Don't give him any extra explanations.
i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.
on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.
it was not planned, it just happened.
I'm sorry. Welcome to the forum!!
The points you disagree about this religion are valid. Feel free to search those topics or post a new thread regarding them.
Is he baptized? I'm assuming not if you've met his family, they sound a little more lax then the typical JW family. Not that that changes anything, even if the relationship is not just sexual, it's still conditional with the hope of you eventually becoming a JW.
Basically, the religion teaches marriage before sex, and only with JW's. This is likely why the long term relationship isn't going to work for him. If he is not baptized, he knows eventually he plan to get baptized and in the long run you would be an obstacle since you are not a JW.
As a way around this obstacle I've seen many young JW's seek relationships outside of the religion with hopes that there mate would eventually study and get baptized. This would make their life easier..i.e.no decisions to be made on if holidays, and birthdays are celebrated in the household.
i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.
on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.
it was not planned, it just happened.
In addition to the previous comments, signing up on Match.com is a no no for JW's.
So it is very hypocritical for him to disobey his religion, sign up on a dating website, have sex out of wedlock then want you to learn about his religion.
Seems he doesn't really care about his religion enough to not have sex but wants you to learn about it because that will tell him were you stand to him. His relationship interest with you is very conditional, if you don't learn the religion it's short term but sexual. If you do learn the religion and convert it could be long term.
Usually JW parents won't study the bible with their child's non-JW girl/boyfriends, so I'm not sure what's up there.
just thought i'd share this ridiculous picture from a recent watchtower.
in recent years, the word bullying has been thrown around a lot, and often misused by instigators and subtle bullies themselves.
in this picture we learn that your loving family who wants to continue sharing a family tradition with you, who hands you a beautifully wrapped present with a smile on their face, is in fact bullying you.
Lv 159 under the topic, "Should I Accept a Christmas Bonus"
Even if the gift is given because of a religious holiday, that does not mean that the recipient is thought to share the religious view. A fellow worker or a relative may tell a Witness, “I know that you do not celebrate this holiday, but I still want you to have this as a gift from me.” If the Christian’s conscience would be at rest, he might choose to accept the gift and express thanks without any reference to the holiday. (Acts 23:1) Perhaps at a time when there will be less likelihood of causing offense, the Christian can tactfully explain his stand.
https://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/1102008072#h=104:0-107:281
... the walls are transparent.
so if you want to help the fly escape you first have to convince the fly that it's in a bottle, and only then can it find its way out.
that is taken from this american life episode 635 called "chip in my brain".
Thx sounds interesting! marking for later.
