Posts by KiddingMe

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First year with baby!

by Darkknight757 in

i wanted to share a few recent pics of izabella with everyone.

this week marks her one year since her coming home from nicu.

she has been growing and changing so much these last few months in particular.

Hatred From My Children for Not Leaving the Organization Earlier

by new boy in

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friends

i'm not proud of the fact that it took me over 50 years to realized what the organization really was and to finally leave it.

not proud at all, i feel pretty stupid.

however i didn't lose my children.

KiddingMe

As parents sometimes the best thing we can do is listen. It’s big that he feels comfortable enough to be open about his feelings with you.

Hopefully getting things off his chest is part of his healing and growth. Overtime hopefully he we get to understand why you did things your way and that you did the best with what you had.

It was a gamble, you placed your bets where you thought the odds were in you and your family’s favor.

Thanks for sharing. Reading the OP feels like reading about my life now. I started waking up about 5 years ago. My youngest is 21 now. All three of my children were having regular bible studies on the path to baptism, going out in field service regularly. My oldest was ready to get baptized just because of the pressure from family and “knowing it was the right thing to do”.

As of today, none are baptized, the two oldest are working full time and attending college part time, one is living with their significant other and doesn’t attend, the other is still with us. The youngest (21 yrs) is going into their senior year in college.

To me, this is good and seems to be worth it, as I’m not sure I could’ve helped from outside the organization. I feel that by staying in, I was able to help soften the blow, be more of an advocate for them and divert the pressure put on them by family members.

At the same time, I know, and I’m reminded after reading the OP and some of the others’ posts that each day I stay in and allow them to stay in mentally, no matter how well my intentions are may not be viewed the same as I do and could possibly be resented by them.

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The biggest news of the year for Mr. and Mrs. Totally ADD

by Still Totally ADD in

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this is bigger than christmas and birthdays wrap into one.

thanks to the australian royal commission our youngest son has woke up.

we received a e-mail from him tonight where he apologized to us for shunning us all these years, how bad he felt for doing this.

KiddingMe

Wow!! Sorry... I’m just seeing this post.

Congratulations!! Thanks for the updates and letting us know some of the resources that helped your son...we never know what will help our love ones!!

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LEAKED: WHQ Accounts: 2016-2020 Budget

by Fay Dehr in

leaked: whq accounts: 2016-2020 budget [part 1 of 5] https://youtu.be/g08tw2v3b4s.

leaked: whq accounts: 2016-2020 budget [part 2 of 5] https://youtu.be/rpceb5v0vbe.

leaked: whq accounts: 2016-2020 budget [part 3 of 5] https://youtu.be/2xa08ukc_6i.

KiddingMe

Marking

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Material such as the film at the end of this years convention confirms that I was right to take my kids out the religion

by jambon1 in

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it’s quite affirming to see the horrific material that they’re serving up at the convention this year.

aside from blatant homophobia, the scenes at the end of the convention that are discussed on another thread stoop to new levels of fear mongering.

it seems to occur to nobody inside the organisation that this kind of material could trigger fear, deprsssion, anxiety, stress.

KiddingMe

I missed this post, marking for later.

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What Should I Say?

by cookiemaster in

i need a bit of advice.

i've been pimo for a long time and fading more and more.

i occasionally attend for family but never give any answers or actively participate in any way.

KiddingMe

I would say, less is more. I dont think social anxiety sound stupid. You could kinda approach it as if your not really sure what’s going on but you don’t feel your normal self, and experience anxiety lately...from life in general, work, etc.- maybe its depression but you just not sure.

Keep focus on your appreciation for his care and concern. I think most the time they need to feel like they’ve encouraged you.

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My JW Elder Brother Passed Away

by minimus in

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he was basically a good man, just a believer in the religion.

when we were both elders we were best of friends and then things deteriorated when i was not an elder for a while.

then after becoming an elder again, i slowly drifted away from the religion and he drifted further away from me.

KiddingMe

Sorry for your loss.🌹

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Judge Orders Jehovah's Witnesses to turn over Internal Documents re: Childhood Sexual Abuse

by AndersonsInfo in

https://nixlaw.com/news/judge-orders-jehovahs-witnesses-to-turn-over-internal-documents-related-to-childhood-sexual-abuse/.

judge orders jehovah’s witnesses to turn over internal documents related to childhood sexual abuse.

april 12, 2018. .

KiddingMe

Thanks Barbara for posting.

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Is he interested?

by Sunnybear in

i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

it was not planned, it just happened.

KiddingMe

Oh as to your question of if you can call the police if he shows up to your home or office...you should probably be proactive and check with the local authority to find out what options you have.

I would think you might need to show some type of communication that you made it clear to him that you want no further contact... to show police and courts that he is harrassing/stalking you.

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Is he interested?

by Sunnybear in

i met a wonderful man on match.com several months ago.

on our first date, there was amazing chemistry and we ended up having sex.

it was not planned, it just happened.

KiddingMe

As it seems your starting to figure out, he has some deep issues, even outside of the religion. I dont even think he fully understand what he wants, which is scary. He seems delusional.

So now its not about the sex, or being your boyfriend, he just wants to be bff's for life. So what happens to you all's friendship when he finds a suitable JW mate?

Once he is baptized, your friendship will be frowned upon because you are considered "wordly", and that's a no no, especially with the opposite sex.

What happened to make him fall out of love with his ex girlfriend of 5 years? And it seems he was hurt because they didn't remain friends?? Well that's not realistic...in the real world there are no guarantees that you will remain friends with your ex.

Another thing, I have a family member that's not baptized and dating a non JW. He respects her and is not expecting her to convert in order for their relationship to move forward. He stop practicing the JW religion (probably because he knows he not following JW rules at the moment), I'm not sure if he'll return if they get married. But the point is he seems to see things for what they are and they both respect each other's religious preference.

Your guy is already pushing the boundaries of the religion...he could very well move forward with you and even eventually marry you (it would be frowned upon like every other thing he is doing, but he wouldn't be the first or last to have done this) but it seems for whatever reason it's not worth it for him. He's definitely coming off unbalanced... start backing away.