Very good advice pale.emperor. It helps to be able to picture what a successful vs failed fade looks like.
A challenge for a successful fade (Sister C) is if she is already married when she starts to doubt and her husband is a JW. How much of her doubts, if any, should she share with her husband? It would be ideal if she could share them all but this still puts her at risk of failing the fade.
If she shares none of her thoughts or doubts with anyone, she will need a solid reason for decreasing meeting attendance, field service and other activities.
There is this elder, that I believe his wife may be awake that has faded successfully. I've known him for over 3 years and have never met her. We are told she takes care of her sick mother. Even still this is not typical of most JWs. They will usually find a way to attend at least the memorial, even if they must hire someone for a couple of hours. Does she not leave her mother's side ever? I guess it is possible but I assume she at least run errands etc. So how does she explain to her JW Elder spouse what activities she can and can not do? JWs start to question sincerity when they see a tiny descrepency. There is obviously more to the story than what the husband is disclosing. Either she herself suffers from some ailment or disorder, being stumbled or he knows of her doubts and covers for her. Its no one business but the point is, there is at least two levels to over come when married, one with the spouse, another with the local elders/congregation. I would say there is another layer to overcome with close JW family.