Posts by Mystery

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Responding To Restraining Order and the Charges It Contains

by Corvin in

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i was served a restraining order by the local sheriff from my jw x -wife.

i know without a doubt this is a small maneuver to block me from picketing at the kingdom hall and exposing her lies and bullcrap.

while nancy is in the hospital recovering, the other two girls are now completely indignant and ready to help take this thing head on.

Mystery

Corvin - I sincerely wish the best for you and your family.

I want to tell you something from a "mom's" point of view; not a JW point of view. (I was raised a JW - 3rd generation. I left over 20 years ago. My ex-husband was the son of a Baptist preacher. Imagine that scenario with an elders daughter! I left my husband when my sons were 3 & 4 yrs. old)

My son tried to commit suicide at age 13. His father (not even a JW) played enormous mind games with him and his brother (one year younger than my oldest). He was torn between the accusations of his father about me and me being silent on the reason why I left his father. After realizing that he needed help (from an outside source); I searched for help for HIM. I had to re-think my ?beliefs?. (Medication is for someone else?s kid; not mine. Psychiatrists are other people not my family! Not even to mention the ?evils? of that type of help from a JW point of view.)

I realize that you have a tremendous load on your shoulders ( and I sincerely believe you will prevail); but please, have your daughter talk with someone (you may have to go thru several different people, I did) that knows neither you, nor your ex, nor JW?s. Find a doctor that she will feel comfortable with and be able to talk with. Call around and ask for a teenager psychiatrist; one that will be on their level. Your daughter needs to talk to someone that she knows she can trust. I realize the legal battle that you are up against. But don?t forget that it is not the battle that you began with; it was ?saving? your daughters.

My son has been talking with Mike (I don?t like calling it therapy because - to the extent that they can be ? they are friends) for 2 years. Sometimes I am in on their conversations, most of the time I am not, but I have been in on the conversations enough to know that Mike is good for Ryan.

Simply sometimes we need to talk to someone that just simply listens, ask us questions to make us think of why we said something. I don?t know if you have ever talked with someone that really didn?t know you, but LISTENED to you and it felt good to say it out loud and not have to ?listen? to their advice or their story or?.. Just someone to simply listen.

Just my thoughts ? outside of JW thinking ? inside of a mom?s heart.

Deborah

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.

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Behind the yellow smiley face (Wal-mart)

by Sadie5 in

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it's been a year since i started my job at wal-mart.

it has been an eye opening experience how they treat their workers.. here is one the ways they cut costs.

i was hired as a sales clerks which is the lowest paid position.

Mystery

A run down of my check in working for Wal-Mart (Sam's club) last holiday season.

From my experience sales jobs pay from $5.40 + an hour. I was making $8.40 as a cashier/sales/stocker.

34hours

Gross: $254.87

Net: 233.52

Social Security Taxes $19.51

State Taxes: $1.84

Due to me being part-time. I could not get health insurance or dental insurance.

I don't know about in the UK; but my family can not survive on $500 a month.

Why was i offered the position at "Wal-mart" instead of someone else ("go to Sam's or Wal-Mart first they pay the most") because i have a Bachelor in Business. Someone with common sense and "a smile" could have done the job.

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Peace and Security

by Mystery in

walking thru the living room this morning, i heard the morning news anchorman say ?peace and security?

those words can still stop me dead in my tracks.

?armageddon was on its way!

Mystery

Walking thru the living room this morning, I heard the morning news anchorman say ?peace and security??..

Those words can still stop me dead in my tracks. ?Armageddon was on its way!?

It seems that those words were used again and again at the KH. Do those 3 words give anyone else a flashback? Or was it just in ?mine??

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The Internet and Apostasy

by CakeMonkey in

has the internet and forums like these caused an exodus from the j-dubs?

when i left in the early 1990s i met support groups through the yellow pages but it still felt like i was the only one in the world who was an apostate.

i've come to this forum in the last year to browse because my brother has now left.

Mystery

Brother Devoted -

Remember it was YOU who decided to be a witness and it was YOU who left..

I didn't decide to be a "witness"; my parents did. I am 3rd generation. My parent(s) are ignorant in the definition of JW's/cult.

Why are you here? Keep reading... maybe YOU will become knowledgeable instead of ignorant as my parents are.

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My story

by recoveringjw in

i had to tell my parents about all of this and i lived through hell in the days leading up to my committee meeting.

but he was married, and i was friends with his wife and a he was ministerial servant and no way was i going to go down that road!

he asked me,

Mystery

Enjoy your life with your hubby. And with your kids ... when you have them.

Have a happy, happy life.

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normal for young jws to have "worldly" friends

by pickle in

since many folks here were raised as a jw, just curious, when u were younger(20's).

did u have close worldly friends?

by friends, i don't mean just someone to go hang out at the mall or something.

Mystery

I had 2 ?worldly? friends in high school that my parents let me go to the movies with and eventually to football and basketball games etc? The main reason was that one of them was my cousin. I lived in a VERY small town and was kin to half of the people living there. I knew if I did something differently from what I told my parents that it would get back to them. And they knew it to. She was family ? they ran out of excuses when her mom kept asking for permission for me to do things with her.

The other girl was my cousin?s best friend therefore becoming mine. I couldn?t stay the night or spend much time at their homes, but was allowed, occasionally, to go out with them.

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i dont understand the term "marking"

by in a new york bethel minute in

i was raised a jdub, was with it until last year... i know everything there is to know about it, i preached it and lived it for 24 years.

but i have never heard of the act of "marking" an individual until i joined this site.

i understand the idea of it, but i dont understand what is involved... what exactly happens when someone is marked?

Mystery

I was "marked" after graduating high school in the '80's. I moved to the next congregation over from us with another sister. Before we even unpacked our boxes, comments were already circulating, that the younger (teen?s and early 20?s) brothers and sisters should not associate with me nor the other sister. We were both active and were considering pioneering if we could financially make it with our bills.

We were ?marked? as bad association due to us not marrying immediately upon graduation or staying with our parents and pioneering and doing Jehovah?s work.\

And ? I was one of the ?special kids?, an elders daughter. But ?. I had been disfellowshipped prior to graduation. (for 9 months).

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