Teejay,
I just wanted to say that I'm a young man, and given to rashness. I'm still fighting the JW's, and I'm pretty tired of it. I've reached a good point with my JW parents (they pretty much have just accepted me for what I've become, which is a good man, but not a JW), but my wife's parents are horrible. I think there can be a happy medium reached, in the end, between two people with warring philosophies. Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes other things stand in the way first...hurtful things, like those letters Bill received.
Guilt is one of the worst things to deal with...it's pity, anger, and disgust rolled into one; let's not forget the humiliation.
You're right about my having forgotten that JW's are human. I've had to push them from my mind to be able to not be sad about losing them. Day to day life is hard enough without people ruining what little happiness you can find. For me, demonizing the people as a whole has helped me to cope with the ones who villify me.
I'm also 22, and don't have children to worry about. I have some time to be selfish.
We (those who aren't objective about the JW's) are just caught up in our own anti-JW frenzy, because we know no good way to deal with it.
Thanks for the post.
ashi