According to JW law a person who feels uncomforatable can write a letter to the accused. IMHO she could write her ex a letter outlining the occurance of events that lead up to this- his conduct. SHe should do so in a very factual matter (non-emotianal as possible) Lay out his abusive behaviour giving in the letter as much times and dates as possible. She should also solicate written statements from the two witnesses that heard her ex admit to his affair and if possible have them have the statements notatized. Include this as part of her letter. Address the letter to her ex but provide copies to her local body of elders and the society. In so doing they may very well leave the whole issue alone as they hate such doccumetntation and fear legal consequences are being considered. She should probably have some one such as yourself assist her in scripting the letter. It is important to just outline her case to him without sounding angry.
To act in this way now she will allow herself time to deal with how she wants to handle her status with the org in a way that may be more satisfactory to herself and her children. Being inacvtive instead of df'd or da'd allows her jw family to at least communicate with her.
Edited by - kelsey007 on 30 October 2002 12:35:16