I tried very hard to tolerate their behavior as well. I finally stopped attending their parties. After that, an elder counseled me that I needed to starting spending time with the friends. These people are not your friends. They can be very deceiving. They will smile and lie to you. They will gossip behind your back. They will love bomb you fiercely. When you don't do as expected in and outside of the hall, they will squash you like a bug. I don't know the answer really. It's a lose all around situation. Tell them to mind their business and you'll be labeled difficult. I finally quit trying so hard and left. Maybe JW Land isn't for us sensitive types.
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.
i was invited to a jw gathering last night.
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by Esmeralda001 ingreetings,it seems that jw immediately assume that all "wordly" people (as they like to call it) are immoral and unworthy of their trust.
i sort of understand how it can be dangerous for a christian to have association with someone who doesn't share their values, but don't you think that some members take the conceal lied in corinthians 15:33 to the extreme?
what about romans 2:14?
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I've noticed this in JW behavior. I don't think they know that they are offending you. They live in their own pocket of subculture and don't understand any other perspective...certainly not the worldy people. It used to get on my nerves that they behaved as if they were superior and holier than thou. I believe that I am a much more decent person than any JW that I've met. Of course, you can't convince them of that. I've said this before. They don't want outsiders in. They knock on doors so that they can relieve their conscience and not be blood guilty. That's what I think anyways. I'm sorry they are treating you this way. It's best to move on and find acceptance elsewhere. -
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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If she appeared homeless...I can't fathom her being put in that situation unless she chose it or was in some sort of trouble. The JWs that i know would never allow one of the friends to go without shelter food clothing etc.. Something's up. -
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by Esmeralda001 injust a little disclaimer: english isn't my first language (i'm from france) thus the poor writing skills.here is the situation: i'm not a jw.
however, i'm in the process of becoming one.
in fact, i'm studying with the jw's, and i'll proceed to become an unbaptized publisher as soon as i finish the first book.to make a long story short i was introduced to the truth when i was 18een.
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They are worried that you're there to take one of the men. Elderette has increased her judgmental behavior due to you leaving and now coming back. She was probably nice the first time around thinking her son and you could be a match. You left and I bet she saw this as rejection. Now this time around she deems you spiritually weak. You have no family in and you're super educated and put together. I'm not sure why you want to join a group that views you as a threat. You don't fit the mold. That's a problem to them. Save yourself the heartache.
Your name sounds so familiar by the way. ;)
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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I'm also going to put this out there....How much property do you own? It seems they are going out of their way on your behalf. I'm a landowner myself. -
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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I'm not surprised. I was just telling one of my friends what they would do. The guys were there with a cart because they were told to be there with a cart. Meaning it was staged. I've had it happen to me in similar ways. So this might mean she is interested in you. Others say it's a cult and I agree that they behave as a collective such as sect like. You're old enough to know and I believe you are smitten and not thinking things through. But if you're really that lonely then...study with the men. Please don't tell them secrets and such. Everything you say will be common knowledge throughout the collective. I'm serious about that. They will know everything about you down to your clothing size. Study and behave and maybe you will get your prize. -
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I have to say that this year's flu shot was a doozy. My arm hurt for a week. My entire body had joint aches and I felt extreme exhaustion. Never before have I had any sort of reaction. So that's my two cents for what it's worth. :) -
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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Oh my goodness...this is getting good. I have coffee spurting out of my nose!! I have my doubts that this is a real situation. Anyways...if it is....The elder most certainly is not going to go check on her for your behalf. He is going to behave in a super friendly like a sneaky Cheshire cat and make note that when they find her..well...she will have many questions to answer as to why there is a worldy man looking for her. She is either acting as a siren as mentioned....trying to have a reason to get disfellowshipped..or has mental health issues. Now just so you know...JW's love to speak in subtle hints, but you absolutely have to watch what exactly you are reading between the lines. Think hard..you could be reading too much about this relationship. Has the love bug mad you become a crazy stalker type? Just sayin'... Also...never ever go to a Kingdom Hall that she belongs to or even mention her name as a casual acquaintance in your future Bible Study. (I'm sure they've offered one to you.) The odds are completely against you my friend. Local needs night should be interesting at her Kingdom Hall. Hahahaa!! Stay on this forum and read some of the stories shared from past and current JW's. I come here everyday to remind myself to stay away from the Kingdom Hall and him. This is a great forum.
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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Oh my goodness..no. Certainly don't call her on the day of a Holiday. She'll see you even more as a worldly person. I personally have been in your shoes. I have had a certain something going on with a JW man for many years now. I'm sure she wishes that she could end up with you. There's slim pickings from what i gather for females. Just so you know....every single week. The JW community aka..friends and the Watchtower will readjust her thinking. Read ahead on the study materials to prepare yourself for the roller coaster ride. Also, she will not go out of her way to contact you. Everything about the relationship will be you doing the work. Appearances are everything to them especially when they are kinda being bad. My advice though....just give up and run as fast as you can. The mind games and rules are so harsh emotionally to cope with. -
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What went wrong in your congregation?
by The Rebel inthe target is converts.. why does it seem such an outrageous aim for a congregation to recruit new converts?.
in my old congregation, the enthusiasm was there but the knocking on doors produced zero " baptisms" in my final years.. a) why so little interests?.
b) was it the internet ?.
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I admit to being a potential convert. The members whether they realize it or not have pretty much scared me away. Every time that I visited the hall, I would hear about not associating with worldly people that you are not to be their friend. I wanted to signal or raise my hand and say,"Hey, you know. I'm sitting right here. Maybe you should keep this kind of talk for another time". (Like, when worldly people aren't in the audience). Made me feel like a complete outsider. Another beef that I had with the hall was local needs night. A total gossip passive aggressive session for all to enjoy. (sarcasm), I admit to enjoying the the study articles. The only reason why I would attend, It seems to me that the members don't want outsiders to join.