We never talked about more education. I did get the vibe that I should be satisfied with a Bachelor's. A master+ would be a waste of resources from what I picked up on.
silvia
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New Converts: When Does It Start?
by Cold Steel injohnny normal is watching television one day when he hears a knock at the door.
answering it he sees two jehovah's witnesses clutching bibles; and one a brief case.
over the next few months things are going well.
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New Converts: When Does It Start?
by Cold Steel injohnny normal is watching television one day when he hears a knock at the door.
answering it he sees two jehovah's witnesses clutching bibles; and one a brief case.
over the next few months things are going well.
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silvia
I was a senior in college and they suggested that I finish my education. The elders do get in your business. I believe they mean well. I'm sure others have a different story than mine. I admit that I was totally surprised when I was advised to finish school. -
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'Worldly' man looking for a little more understanding...
by Verecocha insaw similar title in a google search so thought i'd read more and now simply have to share my experience if anything to hear that i'm not insane and it is that simple.. met and fell madly in love with a witness, and her with me.
what began as love at first sight turned into a 6 year relatiomship which simply ended very bluntly.
there were many painful twists and turns along the way, first from her inability to leave her husband, then my mistake in finding someone else as i simply couldn't take the pain of her coming and going with such simplicity, but in the end she got a divorce and suffered many consequences within 'the truth', and i sorted my issues which were many and admittedly dug with my own hands and stupidity in trying to protect a young girl who had done no wrong in this long affair.. eventually we found ourself on what i believed to be the home straight.
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silvia
I'm so sorry for your heart ache. I'm a non-JW. I was on the cusp of becoming an unbaptized publisher. In my opinion, what you are dealing with is the cult persona. I have been going through a very similar situation for years now. Your girlfriend has her real personality the one she lets come out when she feels safe with you...and then she has her shield up of a cult personality. She is under mind control. She is also controlled by losing her loved ones. I'm sorry to say that it's almost impossible to have any semblance of a normal relationship with a JW unless you become one. But..ultimately she's under mind control. Google mind control.
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Rivalry among the sisters
by Esmeralda001 inwhen i was first introduced to the "truth", i was so distracted by the love and affection that the members were showing me that i was ready to convert into the religion without thinking twice.
i was conviced that jws were god's people (i still think some of them are).
i made it my goal to get baptized as i wanted to be part of the "only" religion that produce such good people.
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silvia
In the halls with a higher socioeconomic tendency, you would feel the need to have name brand bags and purses and high quality garments. So there are halls out there where people don't look down on others for making large purchases. This for me was a pain personally. The upkeep was just too expensive and taxing to deal with. Don't let them make you feel bad. They have issues with your beauty and personal possessions...they have issues with my weight that I don't fit the perfect mold of a sister. They will always have issues and complaints. That's how they brow beat us and keep us in our place. My advice....run as fast as you can...or hide. Whatever works. -
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Privacy
by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.
i was invited to a jw gathering last night.
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silvia
I can relate to feeling stuck. I still agree with the JW teachings. Besides the overbearing elder, miss my the association of my so called friends. However, something has me on red alert that well, something isn't right. So, I will take care of myself and my mind especially and hide from the JW Land drama. -
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.
i was invited to a jw gathering last night.
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silvia
I'm not sure what they mean by difficult. A friend of mine mentioned this to me. I did notice that the pressure was increased for me to conform such as one particular elder started what seemed like a bully mentality towards me. He appeared extremely loving in his actions, but would tell me in all certain terms how things were going to be what I was going to do, and even went as far to threaten me with a smile. He behaved as if he were my Father and I needed him. Really weird. Gave me the creeps and I'm still in hiding. Kinda have had enough of the nonsense. I'm assuming that they might start this behavior with you next. What I call, assign you a surrogate spiritual parent. -
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by Esmeralda001 ini need some advice guys.
how do you get people to mind their own buiseness without coming off as rude?.
i was invited to a jw gathering last night.
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silvia
I tried very hard to tolerate their behavior as well. I finally stopped attending their parties. After that, an elder counseled me that I needed to starting spending time with the friends. These people are not your friends. They can be very deceiving. They will smile and lie to you. They will gossip behind your back. They will love bomb you fiercely. When you don't do as expected in and outside of the hall, they will squash you like a bug. I don't know the answer really. It's a lose all around situation. Tell them to mind their business and you'll be labeled difficult. I finally quit trying so hard and left. Maybe JW Land isn't for us sensitive types.
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Untrusted
by Esmeralda001 ingreetings,it seems that jw immediately assume that all "wordly" people (as they like to call it) are immoral and unworthy of their trust.
i sort of understand how it can be dangerous for a christian to have association with someone who doesn't share their values, but don't you think that some members take the conceal lied in corinthians 15:33 to the extreme?
what about romans 2:14?
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silvia
I've noticed this in JW behavior. I don't think they know that they are offending you. They live in their own pocket of subculture and don't understand any other perspective...certainly not the worldy people. It used to get on my nerves that they behaved as if they were superior and holier than thou. I believe that I am a much more decent person than any JW that I've met. Of course, you can't convince them of that. I've said this before. They don't want outsiders in. They knock on doors so that they can relieve their conscience and not be blood guilty. That's what I think anyways. I'm sorry they are treating you this way. It's best to move on and find acceptance elsewhere. -
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In The Name of Love, Need Your Opinion
by thankyou ini'm non-jw.. been following this forum.
most of you folks have been through hell, but are still loving souls.
i'm reeeally impressed and glad to be here.. my question is at the end of this.
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silvia
If she appeared homeless...I can't fathom her being put in that situation unless she chose it or was in some sort of trouble. The JWs that i know would never allow one of the friends to go without shelter food clothing etc.. Something's up. -
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Feeling rejected
by Esmeralda001 injust a little disclaimer: english isn't my first language (i'm from france) thus the poor writing skills.here is the situation: i'm not a jw.
however, i'm in the process of becoming one.
in fact, i'm studying with the jw's, and i'll proceed to become an unbaptized publisher as soon as i finish the first book.to make a long story short i was introduced to the truth when i was 18een.
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silvia
They are worried that you're there to take one of the men. Elderette has increased her judgmental behavior due to you leaving and now coming back. She was probably nice the first time around thinking her son and you could be a match. You left and I bet she saw this as rejection. Now this time around she deems you spiritually weak. You have no family in and you're super educated and put together. I'm not sure why you want to join a group that views you as a threat. You don't fit the mold. That's a problem to them. Save yourself the heartache.
Your name sounds so familiar by the way. ;)