Divergent - Respectfully.... your comments betray a lack of understanding of Cognitive Dissonance and the associated Psychology of the mind attached to that and - are without doubt a little too heavy to put it mildly - -
While its true that ultimately only we individually can change our position / situation in life - the person locked in by his CD at any point in time cannot see that otherwise he would not be in the situation he is in.
Please bear in mind that many of us here have been along some difficult paths in life. Some are here to find solace - some bear the scars and wounds of severe trauma in life - eg the loss of their own children etc
Regards.