Play the "just tired and depressed" card. No need to mention your doubts about your faith or the organization IF you are not yet prepared to have your ties severed with your family members.
You'll do fine.
Regards,
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ohnightdivine
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Should I do this?
by CivilServant79 inhi there this is my first post as i’m not sure what to do.
my family (both sides) are well known in our circuit and very dedicated to the truth.
but we’re relatively normal people and i love them all so much.
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
Hi stillin,
I thought about that exact thing, too. Bragging rights. Thanks for mentioning it.
To Pete Zahut and all the other good people who commented here, I really appreciate your time and sharing your thoughts.. It's helping me accept that what has happened was not normal, and that I am ok to feel this way. I think I can recover from this without the baggage of my own self doubts.
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
Thanks everyone. I guess I should have sought advice earlier than I did.
I still have 2 other "very close friends" who are also JWs; one is already awake and the other one is just going through the motions and we rarely talk about spiritual things. We've been encouraging to each other on a personal level - family problems, work and achievement, health, study, hobbies, and other things that we can disagree on.
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
I just feel so sad. This has been dragging on for a few years.. it's been hard to let her go. It's like trying to forget everything that has happened for around half of my life.
But thinking now that she probably doesn't care about me anymore unless I do everything to "please Him" and "walk in his ways", I think it is time to accept the reality.
It's not like I have stopped living my life.. On the contrary I've been so busy with many things. I just feel that someone whom I loved dearly as a person no longer recognizes me, and has forgotten that I existed.
Thanks again everyone.
PS. Hi Incognito - yes, the translation renders it a bit cold. But the content was everything about JW... she's been very active in the field service and has not missed a meeting except when she got seriously ill. If I were still an active JW, I think we could still have been close... but I think that's enough. As Tike has mentioned, that part of my life journey is completed.
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
I've known her for more than half of my life... and boom. It just went like that.
Thanks everyone for your honest feedback.
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Waking up can be a scary time
by Leopold theseconed inas a person that has recently come to terms with the reality that the truth is not really the truth .
does anyone else remember the feeling when they realized things were just not true.
it’s wierd all the years i spent preaching i never really considered what it must have felt like to have two people at your door trying to convince you that your religion of birth was a lie.
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ohnightdivine
Waking up to the truth about the truth is hard to explain for me. I think it has to be some story of a fantasy movie. But the thing is, the results linger.
Welcome to the forum.
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
So I was not mistaken to really feel that the letter was manipulative. That was my last straw...
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My Bible Study Conductor's Letter to Me
by ohnightdivine inrecently, i wrote a sister, my bible study conductor, an email just telling her that i thought of her, and i thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(for those who are reading my post for the first time, i was a very impressionable teenager at that time and i had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor.
closer to me than family.
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ohnightdivine
Recently, I wrote a sister, my Bible study conductor, an email just telling her that I thought of her, and I thanked her for being a part of some milestones in my life many many years ago.
(For those who are reading my post for the first time, I was a very impressionable teenager at that time and I had the chance to live in their country for a while, spent much time with her, got to know her way of living, and essentially she became my life's mentor. Closer to me than family. Closer to me than my own blood sister. Essentially, in the transition process from a young teenager studying, to living abroad for the first time, studying the Bible and attending meetings there for the first time, and then eventually joining the workforce all while receiving moral support from her - those are milestones for me.)
I don't know if I should be sharing this letter because I still cherish her as a person and I want to keep her words only to my memory, but since I read this letter, I somehow started shunning her from my life as well because I felt that there was no more reason to continue my perceived friendship with her. I can see her JW persona permeating her wholeness, if this is the correct expression to use.
(Early this morning I had an extremely vivid dream of her coming over for a visit, and there she was, apparently awakened to the truth about the truth. I still miss her terribly.)
So here is a translation of her letter:
It's been a long time since I wrote an email. Thank you for your unchanging heart towards me.
I wonder what milestone you were talking about that you experienced because of me.
If it were not for Jehovah and the truth, would we even have the chance to meet?
If it were not for Jehovah's help and love, our friendship would have already ended, wouldn't it?
I hope that your life becomes full of thanks and praise to him.
But, how come I don't remember hearing those expressions from you..?
Is it because of my bad memory? Or you thought that the gratefulness that you've felt towards him would sound 'trivial' to me that's why you didn't share it?
I think would be very happy if I heard those words from you...
As long as you keep walking this path with Jehovah with a joyful heart, our friendship will not change, yes?
Let's become close friends encouraging each other!
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You are NOT alone !
by stuckinarut2 inthis post is mainly for our new forum visitors and members.
perhaps even those who are just lurking or visiting here but have not yet signed up.
maybe you are in the initial stages of researching and finding out the earthshattering and life changing information about the religion that you once held dear and called “the truth”.. it can be a very stressful period of time as you realise that your whole foundation has changed and that the people in your life that you call friends or family may not take kindly to the things you have discovered.
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ohnightdivine
To my friend who just recently woke up to the truth about "the truth", I hope you can read this...
You are not alone.
It is true when you said that there are also many nice "worldly" people.
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Jehovah's Witnesses Called At My Door
by Roger Kirkpatrick inlast saturday morning, i answered a knock at my door to see a man standing next to a young boy who handed me a pamphlet posing the question, "how do you view the bible?
would you say it is (1) a book of human wisdom?
(2) a book of myths and legends?
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ohnightdivine
Next thing we know, the JW father has started to research online, found this site, and now started to lurk here. That would be nice. 😅