Posts by Aroq

Of course, that is not the majority of instances and it does display character, or lack there of. I get the lack of single male jw's , but why set yourself up for failure at the start.

"many of those women believe that their husbands can be saved at the last moment."

yes, but the reality of it is probably not as you have already stated the lack of quality jw men.

I know of a family in which the Mother has driven off her husband as well as those of her daughters, all ended in divorce except one. That one, the daughter isn't practicing

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Nonbelieving mates

by road to nowhere in

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a couple of my wife's friends are married to non witnesses.

they say jehovah must have special plans for them.

and that it is a special exception not destruction, alas, they are not attractive so my special idea about polygamy won't cut it.

Aroq

my question is....why do they do it? why marry a non-jw in the first place?

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Russian gunman raised in JW family

by Alex Bogdanov in

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the link bellow is sort of ok. i could not find a decent article in english language about this, but russian media is exploding.

2 days ago a teenager killed 19 people and injured dozens and committed suicide.

he was raised in a jw family.

Aroq

here is a link than mentions his mother's involvement with jws.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-6293973/Ex-girlfriend-Crimean-school-killer-says-didnt-want-live-bullied.html

Yes, Finkelstein, I agree. I do however believe that there is mental abuse among children raised this way, even if it is not directly stated he had problems within the org.

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Growing Up Strange (even for a JW)

by GizmoSnicket in

i've been meaning to join an online ex-jw community for quite some time, and finally have made the effort to do so.

i was raised in a small/mid size city in the northeast united states.

i am currently 27 years old, just about five years fully out of the organization (after about two years of "fading" away).

Aroq

" I no longer needed to justify my actions to anyone in my city, my state or even in Brooklyn NY. I owed no one anything in that sense, so sending a letter seemed redundant."

This is the most important part of waking up, in my opinion. It demonstrates your cognitive ability to see the org for what it is and to step away from the box you were put in. Spreading your wings of sorts. Kuddos to you and keep up the good work.

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Just asked JW wife to quit

by rathernotsay in

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so i wont get into why i asked my jw wife to leave... theres another thread for that lol... but more out of pure curiosity i asked her just now... "in order to save this marriage would you leave the jws?

", it was a snap call no, like not even a second to pause and think about it, which kinda took me back a bit, followed by a angry "why would you ask me that now?

" (shes going out witnessing with my kids and her friends).

Aroq

"One of the three grounds for separation is "spiritual endangerment". I've seen the "spiritual endangerment" card played, in some cases, encouraged by the elders."

Oh yes indeed. Had that thrown into my marriage by mom in law. Less then a year later, wife "found a way" to exit the marriage.

She cheated, with the excuse that I made her do it.

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Jehovah’s Witness Examiner—have you ever heard of it?

by minimus in

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i found it on facebook.

evidently, it’s from watchtower and shows baptisms and the brotherhood..

Aroq

I love the similarities in the names! It means that some WILL stumble upon the Watchtower Examination youtube.

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It saddens me to know that marriages break up because of religion and the blame, whose fault it is ?

by smiddy3 in

a jehovah`s witness couple who have been married for many years and some with children of various ages and have been serving in their congregation meeting attendance, fs and bible studies with their children for many years .. and then one of them begins to have doubts about what they are being taught and what they actually are supposed to believe now that some changes have been made with nu-lite.. the doubts grow and then the the use of the internet to investigate further some of the claims of the gb/wt religion .. with the wealth of information available on the www it now becomes impossible to continue to be an active member of the jehovah`s witness religion without being an utter hypocrite .

you no longer believe them anymore that they alone are gods chosen people in this day.. however your spouse does not see things the way you do not at all and after many months of arguments bickering threats the ultimatum is something like if you don`t believe what i believe that you have left jehovah we can`t live together anymore ,i want a divorce unless you come to your senses.. who is the one here breaking up the marriage ?.

isn`t it in the majority of cases the jw who ends the marriage ?

Aroq

in my marriage, it was me the non-jw who divorced her. Well it happened to be because of adultery. I'm not real sure that any of her cong even found out about why she got divorced. I'm sure it was all blamed on me anyway.

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Why isn't Lazarus my next-door neighbor?

by return of parakeet in

after looking through doug mason's "ransom" thread, i noticed a little discrepancy between dub doctrine and the bible; i.e.

lazarus.. if the wages of sin is death, lazarus paid the wages in full by dying, and when resurrected by jesus, he should then have been a "perfect" man.

after all, he paid his wages for his imperfection -- he died.

Aroq

I'm going to ask this at the next cart I see. Great observation!