The organization is not "fair" never has been and never will be. There are double, triple sets of rules and everyone makes up their own to suit. You were so unfairly treated. You cannot change that nor can you influence how "they" will treat you in the future. What you do have the power to do is live an authentic life. It hurts like hell and the injustice can be unbearable, but you will get through it. You really don't need them. Just work on being happy and satisfied with your life.
Posts by Emma
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11Family wont communicate - Disf
by w021809 ini was disf'd a year ago - i have had such a hard few years to get through, some days are better than others.
i was married to a very abusive and violent man for 10 years (who everyone thought was the perfect witness) - i was very young when i got married and was never very close to my parents.
my parents never really thought much of my husband and i just always got on the best i could with what i was dealing with behind closed doors.
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Dealing with Being DF'd
by ~Jen~ ini haven't posted much here but i feel like i need some support right now.
i did post my story, but basically i'm 27, married for 7 years and i was df'd in july.
i always knew i didn't want to be a jw but went along with everything because of fear.
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Emma
First to Jen: You don't have to deal with her. You're right in your decision, please just walk away and start new. Without the jw's family or not. I lost my family, my mom got sick and died and no one told me till they needed my signature on a paper, but I am so much better off. You made the decision to Get Out, it will be really hard sometimes, and a relief others.
I guess this can hold for wo21. Your family may be cordial to your new partner but their entire aim is to get him and then you in the borg. Sometimes things change, family members mellow or see the light, but this can never be counted on.
You are both strong, capable, loving people. Others will see that and want to know you. My friends are truer to me than family ever was; I wish my family could know that kind of love and acceptance.
Emma
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Secret Santa Wish List 2009
by Lady Lee infor those of you who signed up for the secret santa 2009 list here is where you give your secret santa an idea of things you might like.
it's hard enough to give gifts to people you know nevermind people you have never met.. so bearing in mind the $15 limit give us an idea what your favorite interests, colors are, or what things you might like.. in the past people have suggested something for their new christmas tree, a book, a cd of their favorite music, something from where their secret santa lives (something with the city's or country's name on it or an widely known item.. once people get their name they will be able to check back here to get an idea of what your interest is before they go shopping.. if you say "anything" or don't post then expect a surprise..
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Emma
I sent mine out yesterday; should be received in time for christmas!
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Jephthah's Daughter
by cantleave ini have read somewhere that jephthah's daughter did not really go into temple service but was a victim of ritual sacrifice.
the bible says that after weeping over her virginity that the maidens would visit her annually.
how could they visit her if she was killed?.
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Emma
I have a friend who just finished her Masters in theology and is on her way to being an episcopal priest. We talked about this record and she says it was clearly a literal sacrifice. (Doesn't mean god approved...
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Volunteer work and preaching - It's a lie
by Iwonder17 init hit me the other day, when a jw goes to a door and says, we are doing a volunteer work today.... .
no they arent.
they have to go in service every month as a requirement to stay in the club, if not, they become inactive or irregular.
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Emma
I agree. There's a jw woman in our building who works full time and "volunteers" 70 a month. I've often thought that it is not volunteer work, it's required for Everlasting Life in Paradise and for being in Good Standing in the congo. A coworker was impressed until I told her what the "volunteer" work was.
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did/do you you belive the examples in the yearbooks?
by highdose inthe ones where the witch doctor surcomes to his own spell that he put on the brothers, or when the 5 drs physicaly force the sister to have the blood transplant?
etc etc where the person was praying and ... ding dong!
there appear the jw's..... can we belive it??
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Emma
Life is full of coincidence but I think most of those experiences are fabricated or at least greatly embellished. I think you find them in most belief systems as a way to validate their "faith."
edited to say that, yes, I did believe them... but not since having the blinders removed!
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Are the JW's just as superstitious as any other religion?
by dissed inthree years ago, my wife's jw sister of 55 became seriously mentally ill. hallucinations, hearing voices, acute paranoia, physically acting almost like a child.
her and her husband, both have a masters in education, while he also serves as an elder.. why the background?
because its their belief, even with their education, the demons are causing her problems and we, my wife and i, were the ones bringing the demons into her life.. for three years, she goes undiagnosed, while he refuses to get her medical help.
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Emma
They are very supersticious, just deluded into believing that their religious supersticions are the "real" ones. Did she ever get help?
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I have decided to let the world know my real name - With Pics
by Elsewhere inpresident dwayne elizondo mountain dew herbert camacho, porn super-star.
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Emma
My how you've changed!
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Have you ever tried fruits mixed with any kind of meats?
by asilentone inhow do you like them?
i would like to know the recipes.
thanks!
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Emma
Pork loin stuffed with prunes. Tuna or chicken salad with dried cherries and chopped walnuts or pecans. Turkey wrap with mango chutney.
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Family Worship -- a page at the end of 10/15/09 WT
by sd-7 inin reading this short article, oooooh, let's just post some quotes:.
page 32, paragraph 1:.
"last year, the governing body announced an adjustment to the congregation meeting schedule that allows more time for bible study and discussion as a family.
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Emma
I think Keven/Kevin is a figment of their imagination. Can you believe any adult would write such drivel, especially an elder who should have been having "family study" with his family long before the new arrangement? And they make it sound so desperate!
We "always" had a family study according to my ex's time slip (and we all know how accurate those things are!).