I recognize a lot in the article. After my weddingday it took me six weeks to realize that I'd married the wrong guy. He was cute, he was sort of sweet (and also a real JW, so he was 'in charge' so to speak, the boss, the 'head'... yuk!) and from day one I really didn't like to have sex with him. I managed to stay with him for nearly fifteen years, but then I couldn't take it anymore. The promise of a 'blessed marriage' when you keep your virginity appeared to be a lie. But like the person in the article, it took me years to learn to enjoy sex and feel okay about it. And even now I still have times that I have to fight the old thoughts and feelings of disgust and dislike, just because I used to be so programmed to think that sex is dirty, sinful and has to be about the man's needs instead of mine...
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I Waited Until My Wedding Night To Lose My Virginity And I Wish I Hadn't...
by Divergent ini found this article interesting & just wanted to share.
after going through my teenage years trying to be the perfect jw, i realized that trying to live up to the standards imposed on me have been for worse & not for better.
i was feeling miserable, repressed, unfulfilled, with a great lack of self confidence & self esteem.
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Children calling jw adults uncle and auntie, when did that start?
by awakening ini cant figure out when the auntie and uncle thing started or why.
it sure is a peadophiles dream to have a kid they dont know call them uncle!
they are now in a special relationship.
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Bruja-del-Sol
To me as a child it wasn't strange at all. Later in life my ex-husband and I used to call an old sister 'auntie', she was the dearest friend of my (then) inlaws and a friend of their family for decades, and my children changed that to 'granny'. Every since I've always referred to her as 'my grandmother', even though she wasn't really related to us, it just felt that way. And she was happy with it, she never had children of her own. We were the only family she had. She's passed away over 14 years ago, but still to this day she was closer to my heart than any of my blood related grandparents.
My new husband has never been a JW, but he has numerous stories of neighbours he'd call 'uncle' and 'auntie', so I guess it's also a cultural thing in the Netherlands to give those 'titles' to people who aren't related but still somehow close to the family.
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How Often Do You Come To JWN? How Often Do You Post?
by minimus indo you check this site, daily?.
do you post very much?.
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Bruja-del-Sol
I'm a regular visitor, usually every day a couple of times, and scan the latest topics fairly quick and read the ones that catch my attention. I mostly read, but every once in a while I also post things about my experiences as a JW, hoping that someone might find it helpful. I like to read the stories of others, it's sometimes like looking in the mirror from a different angle...
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What happy, wonderful thing happened to you since you left the "truth"?
by Jeannette inmore than one thing for me, but i have learned to enjoy festivals, and just enjoying free time.
it's not that the org wouldn't allow it, i just felt i shouldn't.
there are others, of course, and i really have been happier and good things have come my way since i left.
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Bruja-del-Sol
The happiest thing for me (after being DF'd and divorced) was that I finally had a chance to find my first love (a classmate in school), who was sent away by my father because he wasn't a witness. After 18 years I was still looking for closure, had a couple of questions to ask him and wanted to end it all with one last chance to tell him how sorry I was (about what my father did to him) and how much I liked him back then.
I found him, we had that last talk... and it was the beginning of a new life. The spark appeared to still be there, for both of us. We tried to fight it, since he was married. But because his marriage wasn't happy and his wife was extremely jealous, he gave up on her and they divorced. He then needed time to recover emotionally, since his now ex-wife really terrorized him and took away his only child. Nearly two years after that we were still together but also still living apart. And then he finally asked me to come live with him. A couple of years later we married and now we feel lucky to be together every day!
He never expected me to escape the JW's (nor my parents), and is proud and happy that I did and that I found him after all those years.
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Have you ever read the review of Steven Hassan's books on Cult news.com?
by Enzo inhi, to everyone my username is enzo, .
recently a saw a video presented by john cedar presenting steve hassan as a cult expert.. .
but read this reviews presented on cult news about steve hassan's books, and it's up to you make your own opinion about the video.
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Bruja-del-Sol
I'm Dutch and I feel quite embarrassed by this 'Enzo'-type...
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Reverse Shunning
by exwhyzee insometing happened yesterday that i thought might be noteworty enough to relate to you here.. mrs. eyz and i were invited to my new boss's home for his annual end of summer party.
it's a pretty big deal....his is a name known locally (i'll call him j.r.) a really nice interesting guy who's held a number of high level and politically connected jobs.
there was to be music, dancing, wine and reprotedly lots of well dressed, well educated, well to do and influential people (oh yes...and us) in attendance.. anyway we thought we'd make an occasion out of it and got ourselves spiffed up which involved new outfits and extra mirror time before we left home.
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Bruja-del-Sol
What a great uplifting story, an example for all of us in how to take your dignity back and let them be the underdog. Well done!
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Dubs - Paradoxes From Hell
by Farkel indubs - paradoxes from hell.
jesus said his yoke was kindly and light.. dubs brag their religion is the "hardest religion in the world.".
the bible tells children to honor their parents.. the wts tells children to betray their parents.. if dubs really live in a "spiritual paradise," why do their lives have to be threatened to stay in it?.
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Bruja-del-Sol
This how Farkel stays 'alive', he will always be remembered because of excellent posts like this!
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MY BEST JESUS STORY
by Terry inhere is my best jesus story .
.. i lived in some apartments some years back.. the apartments were a kind of "retirement" atmosphere of ancient conviviality.. once a week there would be a coffee and doughnuts get-together so you would know who your neighbors were.. well .
.. i went to one and didn't go for month or so.
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Bruja-del-Sol
Wonderful story, Terry... and funny too Poor Stan... hahaha
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FYI all... Mike and Kim You Tube
by ducatijoe inwell if any did not know, mike and kim were shut down on you tube.. they are back on under kim mikey.. .
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Bruja-del-Sol
In the basis they often had good material, but the way they presented it was too much for me. And useless to show to still in JW's.
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It's my birthday today
by Bruja-del-Sol in... but most of my new (post jw) friends either don't know my birth date (if people don't specifically ask i won't tell them), or they are 2500 kilometers away in the netherlands... so all that's left to celebrate with me are my hubby, the two doggies, cat and my two rabbits... mixed feelings, i miss my friends and family around and haven't found friends in spain yet.
luckily our daughter will visit us the end of the month... and yesterday we've found a new rental house and we're moving into it next month already!
i'm thrilled and really looking forward to it, then we will finally be able to let all the rest of our belongings come to spain (2/3 of our stuff is stored in the netherlands).. so with this in mind, i'll just say 'happy birthday to me' and will enjoy my third birthday in espana .
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Bruja-del-Sol
@Humbled (Maeve): aaaah would love to see them! So teeny tiny Bruja has turned into a real chick haha. Thank you for the wishes!
@mrquik: Thank you!
@JWdaughter: you're funny LOL, thank you very much. We're so exited about the new house! Gonna start packing this weekend!