I was always in trouble with the witnesses for acting "worldly" so I fit in just fine at school, luckily. Especially by middle school, when I would just wear my friends clothes (funny enough, I got voted "best dressed" in 8th grade, and my friend was pissed because they were HER clothes!). I got in trouble for saying the pledge, having boyfriends, wearing worldly clothes, going to holiday parties, etc...The worst part ffor me was being forced out in service, and sitting there at the door, literally praying it would not be someone I knew from school...
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Did you get made fun of when you were in school?
by doodle-v indid you get made fun of when you were in school?
i'm curious to know because when i was in junior high i was constantly picked on made fun of and the butt of many jokes.
even remembering that hurts till this day.
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Are JW's prejudice ??? 15 questions (not talking about race)
by run dont walk in, what do you think ............ 1) will a jw parent allow their son/daughter date someone who is not a jw ???.
2) will a jw parent allow their son/daughter marry someone who is not a jw ???.
3) will a jw parent allow their kids to socialize with other kids after school or weekends ???.
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stephaniesays
I can totally see this. Of course, growing up in the South, a lot of people feel that they are not prejudiced, but in reality, most of them are, to some degree. My mother, a witness, always talked about how the Witnesses weren't racist at all, (and I realize you weren't talking about race-I am just using an example) but I remember many times, hearing little jokes being made about many different races. The worst thing, though, I always felt, was the really hateful attitude towards gay people. My mother, who won't say, "That sucks", because it's vulgar, or "pissed off" has no problem at all using the word "fag" or "dyke"-and the hateful tone it's used in is truly horrible, as if that person has no worth or something. I guess I have been in the world too long, but I had gotten used to people being tolerant of others' differences and it's hard to adjust again when I get around my family...And very embarrassing, sometimes, especially in front of my husband, who grew up in LA, with a father in the movie business.
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I need your help
by SpiceItUp inso the good news will start now...... some of you may remember that i stumped my mom http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/51940/1.ashx.
anyway here is the update.
i went on vacation but my mom to my knowledge did not pick up coc and read it.
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stephaniesays
I am new to this and to most of these ideas, but when I asked my mother about this one, she said that they didn't belive it fell in 607, but that that was when they returned or something...Does that make sense ot anyone? (I still don't know much about what the dates represent, anyway, so sorry if this doesn't mean anything to the topic-just what I was told)
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
Thank you-I am checking out your website and finding lots of interesting stuff!
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
Thank you-I am attempting to get the books today!
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
Doesn't sound extreme at all-I have seen the way they have slowly gotten to me after being out all these years!
Thank you.
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
Thanks...I know that you are right...I guess since she sort of represents a mother like figure to me, I am setting myself up for the same type of rejection I basically experienced with my parents when I originally left. Always setting myself up, trying to gain approval form people I will never get it from...AARGGHH! I just wish I didn't crave their approval at all...
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
That has always been one of the things i find the most strange...How they label people apostates-anyone who has left, and how they are so afraid of them. I found myself being the same way for years after I left, even though I didn't realize at the time that...(gulp) I was one!
I have a hard time even telling her (the one "studying" with me) that I don't agree with some things, because she will "explain" and then just keep asking, "Doesn't that make sense?"
Thanks!
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
That is so funny-I have been using this handle for years and no one else has ever gotten the reference! Yep, huge VU fan, and especially that song, as it is probably the only song I have heard that says my name...
It's funny, though, in a warped and twisted kind of way, how when you ask witnesses questions about things like that, they are able to make it sound not quite so...disturbing...Do you know what I mean?
I was talking to my mother a couple of days ago and I asked her how she could feel so sure, when all the other people in all the other religions believe just as strongly in their faith..She said that you have to pray for guidance, and I said that I was sure that many of those people did and they still came to the same conclusion. Her answer was that you have to pray HUMBLY...What the heck is that supposed to mean?
Thank you for your thoughts...Every one of them helps!
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New here...(my story and a request for help)
by stephaniesays ini was raised in the organization.
my stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when i was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation).
i became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then.
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stephaniesays
I was raised in the organization. My stepfather was a ministerial servant but was removed when I was 14, due to family problems, which he blamed on me (he was abusive, physically, and was told that if he cannot control his family, he could not be an example to the congregation). I became pregnant at 15 and have not really lived around my family since then. I have lived a normal (meaning not a witness) life. I am married, with three kids, celebrate all holidays with pleasure, etc...I even...(gasp!) smoke...There was a woman when I was younger who studied with me, who was like my mother. She was actually responsible for my stepfather being removed, as her husband was an elder. She was always there for me, and when I moved to her side of town, after little contact for years, she asked me if I would study with her. I am not one who has known all about the society's "scandals"-I just have always felt that it was weird. So, I agreed to let her study with me, mostly because I wanted her apporval, but feeling that it would not go very far. Well, now, of course, I am being pressured into going to meetings, etc...and there is no doubt in my mind that I do NOT want to be a witness. However, I now feel that I have to prove to myself that it is not the truth, in order to feel comfortable breaking all ties. I hope all this makes sense-my husband (never a witness) doesn't understand why it's such a big deal. I just know that I will lose her friendship once I say that I do not want to be a witness, and it is a dear friendship to me. I am asking you all for help in proving to myself that what they say is not the truth. I have not lived as a witness, but i have also not been exposed to other religions, and so I have a hard time disagreeing with what she says when I am not educated on what they are talking about (i.e. the bible)...Where to start? All of the information is very overwhelming....
Also, I have a friend from childhood studying again. I want to clue her in on some things but don't know how. Any advice?