Posts by KateWild

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

tiki - yes you're right I should have stayed away thanks for the support.

flipper - good research, but all that I heard just reinforced my negative feeling about WT, love bombing is my weakness.

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

Thanks guys for all the support I really needed it.

My loved one came round for a meal before the meeting and we caught up and chatted a lot. She asked questions that showed she had a genuine interest. I told her I had been dating for the past year and that if I go back to the KH and get RI'd, I would not qualify to date or remarry as my husband divorced me on unscriptural grounds. The guy I have been dating this week is really nice and he contacted me while my friend was there. She said he was a puppet of Satan.

This made me laugh as it's exactly what I would have said to her as a youngster (she is the same age as my daughter). So she is feeding me nonsense that I taught her.

She was very emotional though and sincerely thought I was going to die at Armageddon, I did tell her that I had given Jehovah my best and he would save me if he really exists, as all he wants is our best. But she really wanted me to come with her, and told me all the harsh elders had left and now they were all just, kind elders. I could see the fear and love in her eyes. She was emotionally blackmailing me and I knew it but I loved her anyway and care about her. So I caved and went to the meeting even though I knew it was a bad idea.

All the brothers and sisters that saw me acknowledged me and winked or smiled. It felt nice but I knew it wasn't right. This was also a different hall from my KH that i got DF'd from. So no matter how nice they were my old JC that I recorded, would have to RI me and they are never going to do that, but I don't want to anyway.

The meeting was nonsense and I was really just criticising everything. Then after the song and the service meeting started I got a phone call from the guy I was dating, he wanted a chat to get to know me better. I ran outside to answer the phone and told him I was busy and would call him back when I was free. He said "ok no problem enjoy yourself"

So I am sitting in the KH, listening to propaganda and nonsense, clock watching until I can talk to this wonderful guy I have met. I thought it was ludicrous!!!!!! he said enjoy myself!!!!!

So I walked out and left, called him and had a nice chat. I wasn't going to let WT take my time and my life.

The majority of advice was good telling me not to go, but my heart strings couldn't resist the pull of love bombing. I love them all, but know I can't have them back.

Thank you for all the responses since i last checked in I will answer you all now

Kate xx

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My introduction and confession

by elderINewton in

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friends

well another big bad elder here just wanting to say sorry.. i'm sorry that so many were treated like crap, and shown that god's love is not to be found around jehovah's witnesses.

i'm sorry that inadvertently i've likely taught many to judge and as such see that racism permeates every corner of the jw world, else why else would someone be of the world, or even inactive.

i'm sorry i sat in on a jc, and voted to df.

KateWild

To me, the reality is that there is no such thing as a successful escape, its just playing for the tie, or to minimize the loss.-elderNewton

Sadly I agree, but at least if you exit your way, you did not submit to WT rules

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

I say stick to your guns and your own hard won principles and standards, if you can, stay away.- Slidin Fast

Yes that seems the consensus of the thread so far

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

If you want to attend a few meetings to support and help a loved one I find that very kind.- C

Thank you for giving an alternative perspective. I am doing it out of love and kindness

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

Don't do it at the meeting. Get her to come and see you at home instead.-K99

She is coming over late afternoon for a meal today............I just want her to keep coming so I can support her. I do see what you're saying though, and understand why you feel so strongly about someone already out.

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

You're a genuine gal. You don't belong in a fake world.-splash

Ahhh that's so sweet you can tell that just by electronic contact. Wish I could meet all you guys in person xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

I believe that is the sole reason you are considering going back to the KH. And I believe by asking you are trying to get us to talk you out of it. The more we rationalize the less rational we are.- DJS

Actually that's not the case at all, I am dating someone now and he took me out for the day to another city last Sunday, it was an amazing date and I wouldn't miss seeing him and doing that to go to a meeting, so I don't intent on going back regularly anyway.

Plus I play netball on the night of the service meetings so I won't miss netball either. I was just thinking of the sporadic Sunday.............but I can see your perspective too.

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

I believe yu have already decided.-Punky

Not entirely.........I might not go........or just go to one to get the gossip mills going. I am really looking for feedback. I know my daughter won't want me to go. But I would love gossip to get back to my ex I am back at meetings for a laugh lol

Kate xx

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Shall I go to the meeting? Would you?

by KateWild in

hi guys,.

i might go to the meeting.

i stopped going in my heart properly in nov 2013, but i went to a couple of meetings to support a love one that was df'd and tried to teach them a little ttatt.. now another df'd loved one is coming to see me today and will likely encourage me to try and get ri'd, and i want to support her.

KateWild

You were doing so well too.-splash

oooo so it's a step back you think. Ok I can take that on board

Kate xx