Posts by KateWild

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Missing Friends.

by Resi in

it's been a long time since i posted.

for a brief recap, i have an aunt who is one of jehovah's witnesses.

when i was really sick, i sought out their group because i remembered the support my aunt had and how they were like a second family to her.

You have no idea how rubbish this advice is. Moving on after being in a cult is lonely and a struggle, don't be so naive as to believe moving on is a simple case of getting an education, a career, volunteering, finding hobbies. You don't actually get true friends by doing all of this. It's just a distraction from the isolation. then when you're tired and home alone, you get emotional and feel how awful it is you have no one to share your life with because your acquaintances from your jobs, hobbies etc, have other priorities and are too busy to socialise with you.

People come to this board for advice and support. we need to acknowledge their struggles, not be dismissive about isolation and how stressful it is.

Kate xx

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Missing Friends.

by Resi in

it's been a long time since i posted.

for a brief recap, i have an aunt who is one of jehovah's witnesses.

when i was really sick, i sought out their group because i remembered the support my aunt had and how they were like a second family to her.

KateWild

It's an awful feeling to connect with people and realise they don't really see you as that much of a priority in their lives. You're right about them being prejudice as you're not baptised.

This cult really causes a lot of damage and isolation. sorry you are missing your friends.

Kate xx

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Introduction

by shattered_origins in

i joined the forum yesterday and made 2 angry posts which received encouraging replies.

i spent a good chunk of time today browsing various posts, and i can't get enough!

i'm doing things backwards now and taking a moment to introduce myself.

KateWild

Welcome shattered

Kate xx

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New Watchtower Propaganda and hate speech destroying families (Feb 2016 WT)

by Daniel1555 in

the following is a paragraph from the new february study watchtower article "learn from jehovah's loyal servants.".

7 a conflict of loyalties may arise when a close relative is disfellowshipped.

for example, a sister named anne [1] received a telephone call from her disfellowshipped mother.

KateWild

How do the writers of the WT know she was committing some wrongdoing and is unrepentant? They are making unsubstantiated conclusions. Only Jehovah supposedly reads hearts.

Not everyone that gets DF'd has been Df'd justly. Like me I was unjustly DF'd and was repentant. I did not commit a sin either. This infuriates me and I will make sure my son know this is all utter nonsense to cause divisions and isolation and manipulation.

Disgusted

Kate xx

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Your thoughts on Halloween , yes, no or maybe ?

by Finkelstein in

well its that time again when the ghouls come out to play.

i personally think halloween is a bit irresponsible and inappropriate from a sociological perspective.. there's something about the intent of frightening young impressionable children minds with frightening objests.

and feeding them candy which most likely cause tooth decay and stomachs is irresponsible activity conducted by adults.

KateWild

I am not looking forward to it at all. I wanted to have fun and do something festive. But I have been unsuccessful in making plans.

I tried about three weeks ago to make plans with various people in my life, sadly to no avail.

This just reminds me of my social life that I lost in WT.

Not looking forward to it.

Kate xx

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The Effects of Sexual Abstinence Before Marriage

by cofty in

very interesting article on the psychology of sexual abstinence and the effects it can have on sex life after marriage.

it focusses on an evangelical group for single men called "the river" but the attitudes will be familiar to born-in jws.. ___________________________.

..respondents had been told, since they were young, that women were nonsexual.

KateWild

I think the key to sexual compatibility is generosity.

If your partner is generous towards you before you have sex you can guarantee they will be during sex also.

There is no hard and fast rule as to whether or not pre marital sex is an advantage. Open communication is what's more important.

Kate xx

44

Need advice

by Darkknight757 in

hi.i've been pouring over this site for the past few days looking for some advice and i hope there is someone here that can help a guy out.

i'm desperate.....short bio: i came into the organization after high school and shortly after married a wonderful girl who was born-in.we have been happily married now for nearly 20 years and things were well until 2015 hit.

by the way, i currently serve as an elder and have the ""privilege"" of being the "watchtower overseer".. either here nor there, we were told we would never have children but late last year my wife became prego!!

KateWild

Welcome to the board Darkknight,

I am so sorry for your loss it's a deep wound to lose a child or children like this. I understand your position that you don't want to preach about falsehoods any more. Stepping down as an elder is your first move.

As a woman if I was in her position, I would appreciate extra attention. So you could take her for nice meals out and day trips on a meeting day. Tell her she needs to heal and missing the odd meeting will benefit her if you both are doing something productive. Get her to talk about how she feels about waiting so long to have children and if she has any regrets. You can use this to undermine the GB.

These would be steps I would respond to as a woman.

Kate xx

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Just found out their about to baptise my 14 year old boy.

by Crazyguy in

there doing this right under my nose but i just found out.

not sure what to do but would like your help on getting me wt information on my headship role and how they shouldn't be doing this with out my permission.

also would like some help on showing my son the ramifications on what happens to someone when they get baptized and how they'll expect him to treat me.

KateWild

Crazyguy,

Your son sounds like he wants to please both you and his mother. Could he be very confused right now? It's awful they way WT is manipulating pre teens and teenagers.

When you speak with him highlight to him to really be honest with you about his feelings and say you respect his beliefs and choices, but want him to be honest with you. It's only from real openness and honesty can you get through to him.

I am sorry you are having to go through this.

Kate xx

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Just found out their about to baptise my 14 year old boy.

by Crazyguy in

there doing this right under my nose but i just found out.

not sure what to do but would like your help on getting me wt information on my headship role and how they shouldn't be doing this with out my permission.

also would like some help on showing my son the ramifications on what happens to someone when they get baptized and how they'll expect him to treat me.

KateWild

WMF,

When you say we told you, who told him? Have you got the thread?

Sometimes the efforts parents put in don't work. It's a cult.

Kate xx

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Just found out their about to baptise my 14 year old boy.

by Crazyguy in

there doing this right under my nose but i just found out.

not sure what to do but would like your help on getting me wt information on my headship role and how they shouldn't be doing this with out my permission.

also would like some help on showing my son the ramifications on what happens to someone when they get baptized and how they'll expect him to treat me.

KateWild

Crazyguy, sorry this is happening. My son is 14 too. I feel your pain. Sorry that your planting seeds hasn't worked for you.

My son has seen injustice in the congregation so his bad experience has shaped his opinions and planting seeds has been successful for me.

I hope you find a solution and stop the baptism

Kate xx