Posts by KateWild

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Jehovah's Witness Recovery is no more...

by TimeBandit in

jw
friends

i just tried to go to the site and there is a goodbye message.

i was a member there since 2010. i was really surprised.

i had just started posting there again after being away for a while.

KateWild

Well I suppose this is bitter sweet news really. It sad to see some exJWs in need of support, and if you post a thread here I will offer any support I can, but it's also happy to see some exJWs moving on.

Because of my age and circumstances, I don't think I will ever move out of the exJW community and it will be a part of my life daily, but my daughter has definitely moved on and I have hopes that my son when he is her age moves on too.

Perhaps Simon may want to move on one day too.

I think that if you have been fading for years and cannot expose yourself publicly, it's a very difficult place to be. Thankfully I have contacts in real life now and I am fully out on Facebook as an exJW.

Kate xx

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Should I stay married to my JW wife

by gatorguy in

me and my wife were at the beach the other day and i finally told her, i don't think i believe in god anymore.

i fessed up to the fact that it started with me doubting some jw beliefs and then it just led me to this point where i don't even believe in god.

i wouldn't say that i even have a negative view towards jw's or religion in general.

KateWild

A useful book for you to read is "Combating Cult Mind Control" by Steve Hassan.

Your wife is stuck in a cult and the book describes that people have two different personalities when in a cult. A cult personality and an authentic personality.

The book helps loved ones focus on the authentic personality to help them move on slowly and eventually see they are in a cult that they need to escape. Not everyone can help their loved ones but there is some very good advice in the book.

If you really love your wife I would recommend you read this book and try taking some of the advice in it.

If it's not working then the best thing to do is divorce. But if you love her, try first.

Kate xx

19

My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Hey Freddo,

Yes my son can see it for what it is. Hence the song. He knows the future. And yes his school is close by. If he is able to live with me at 16, but if not it will be 18.

The point is its soon relatively speaking. We have weathered the storm with our bond in tact.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Thanks Rebecca, Gt, and Jw gone bad for you support and posting.

Jwdaughter,

Yes over the years there has been different court orders to ensure contact. But these court orders are not enforced and over time my ex wanted to stop contact all together. He did for ten months. But my son was so upset so we got contact back and it was supervised.

So this week the supervisor phoned in sick for the second time in a row. Even though it's court ordered the courts won't enforce the contact. My son asked his dad if he could see me unsupervised and also asked him if he would come with us to supervise the contact. But his dad refused. I can't call the police and say there is an emergency as the court order is being breached. The police can't enforce the order.

My son was devastated that he couldn't see me and his dad's reasons were nonsense which upset him even more.

He is 14 and a half now. He will be 16 in eighteen months. He will be an adult soon and no courts will be able to keep him away from me. That's why we can say he will be home with me soon. Then all this bullshit contact controlled by his father will stop.

Kate xx

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I have a plan....

by DATA-DOG in

with all of the bat-shit crazy propaganda of late, i'm considering talking to my wife about the cult.

we have had zero religious discussions for two years.

the last discussion ended with ,"you have no beliefs, no personal beliefs, because you change your "beliefs" when the wtbts writes an article.

KateWild

Good for you DD, great plan.......especially the bit about texting your daughter after the video.

Go for it and keep us updated.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Yes Lisa it has been really painful for both of us but our bond is strengthening each day.

Thanks Angus. I actually phoned just before you went to Poland when the kids were on half term. You were at work.

Thanks for recognising we have been through crop......but the positive outlook is the more controlling and unreasonable his dad is......the more he hates his dad and wants to come home to me.

Kate xx

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My wonderful son

by KateWild in

hey everyone,.

for those of you who don't know my story.

i had a messy divorce i lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back i couldn't do anymore.. yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled.

KateWild

Hey everyone,

For those of you who don't know my story. I had a messy divorce I lost custody of my son in 2011 age 9yrs after four years of court battles to get him back I couldn't do anymore.

Yesterday my wonderful son had an upsetting day as our contact was cancelled. He sent me a beautiful song as he couldn't sleep due to being upset. It has the lyrics " I keep trying to get on home to you"

He is 14 and a half now, he will home with me soon.

Kate xx

https://youtu.be/8Hp3Z12wjyw

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EdenOne, Mrs. Eden & Son: DISASSOCIATED!

by EdenOne in

great news!.

we are free!.

as of the 9th of june, me and my dear wife mrs. eden handed over our letters of disassociation at bethel in portugal, thus making official our departure from the jehovah's witnesses.

KateWild

Congratulations......I am happy for you all. It's great that you stopped being JWs as a family.

Kate xx

11

Man I hate this F'ing cult!

by oppostate in

the nicest and kindest jw's seem to be the ones who are the least connected and active in the congregation.. i've been trying to fade and been missing quite a few meetings.. of course my wife still loyal as ever if not more so since i've awoken to ttatt.. every mid-week and sunday meeting i miss she gives me the silent treatment.. she's become more and more friendly with a regular pioneer younger than she is and wife of an elder, this to the letting go of regular contact with best friends in the 0rganization, whom she was closest to but were and aren't as active and regular at meetings and field service.. it's a crying shame, i'm closer and kinder to her old friends, keeping in touch through facebook posts now and then, encouraging them through the hardships, rejoicing with them during happy moments, graduations, welcoming a new child to the world, marriages, new jobs and what-not.. she has become a serious shunner, staying away from a lot of folks we were close to because they're not good association.. she's drunk the whole cup of kool-aid and anything i say that's remotely negative towards the 0rganization is met with stern retorts and accusations i'm apostate sounding.. and yet, she's still the kind hearted, loving person she used to be.

it's like she has a wt hat she dons and it changes her mind, her outlook, her behavior.

when dealing with neighbors, with people outside the kh, she's as nice as could be and i know this kind-heartedness is genuine--but it's been hi-jacked by this f'ing cult.

KateWild

Sorry to hear this. It's really frustrating when we wake up if our loved ones get more attached to the cult.

They are constantly being bombarded with information about weak ones and having doubts.

The good news is that many genuinely good hearted JWs that have become more serious about WT tend to read all the literature and then develop doubts. They study and research more and more until boom the penny drops and the realise it's all a lie.

Keep being loving and spend lots of spare time doing fun stuff.

Kate xx

20

I feel frustrated

by BlackWolf in

jw
friends

hello all, things for the most part have been somewhat better for me because my parents haven't talked about baptism or anything recently.

i got a scholarship to go to art camp for a few weeks which has been fun (since its free, my parents didn't refuse) but it has also been very nervewracking for me.

i haven't been around any non jws for more than a year and its like being in a different world, a world where people are actually real and genuine and not mindless drones.

KateWild

Great news that you are at art camp. I understand it's hard to make friends when they have a different background.

But like another poster said. Live for the moment, enjoy the present with them. Worry about maintaining long term friendships at a later time.

Have fun at art camp

Kate xx