Posts by freein89

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Swallowed my pride and had a good cry today

by Lady Lee in

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as some of you know i have been have a few health problems lately.. i went to the doctor today to pick up my application for a handicapped parking permit.

when we talked he said he would sign it for a year.. well he signed it as "permanent disability".

in one way this is good because if they don't figure out the problem and find a solution i won't have to keep applying for it.

freein89

Never underestimate the power of a good cry Lady Lee. Did you know that the chemical make up of tears of sadnes is different than that of the tears if you say drop a cast iron frying pan on your toe? Well they are, it must be part of the process that makes you feel better after a good cry. What I am trying to say is that a cry is helpful for some super duper chemical reason, its good for what ails you. It is similar to the chemical reaction to breast feeding. It releases the "happy juice" in your brain, I remember when nursing my babies, the rest of the kids would be tearing the house apart and I would smile and think Oh isn't that cute, they're tearing the house apart.

But if you have no access to a nursing baby, crying will just have to do!!!! Laughing helps too.

Three men walked into a bar . . . and the fourth one ducked. hehe

Hugs to you Lady, your beautiful spirit shines through and that will never be disabled!

Deb

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I went to the funeral of the disfellowshipped child

by freein89 in

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thanks for the loving support, it was needed and appreciated.

the funeral was this morning and i went.

there was one jw family there-one.

freein89

Thanks for the loving support, it was needed and appreciated. The funeral was this morning and I went. There was one JW family there-ONE. The rest were all non-JW's and family of the girl he had been dating. The parents were grateful for the attendance of all that were there. This was one of the few families that I had genuinely missed from my JW days. The service itself lasted less than 5 minutes, with a person I had never seen before reading a few scriptures and concluding with a prayer. The word Jehovah was never mentioned although God was. The man who conducted the service was awkward and scared to death. I rather doubt he was an elder or even a witness. The parents did have a stack of the "What Hope for Dead Loved Ones?" brochure available to pick up and I only saw one or two in the hands of the people there. The boy was euligized, something I had never seen at a witness funeral, by two friends who were not JW's and his younger brother who I think is about 18. It was the most tragic funeral I have ever seen.

I was outraged at the lack of support by the JW's. What kind of "Witness" did these people give by not showing up? They showed their true colors by not showing up. I hugged both parents before I left, both said they have missed me and thought of me often. The father remarked that we had once been very close and that one day maybe we would be again. They are both obviously still in, but I hope from the bottom of my heart that they will reflect upon the unloving and uncaring attitude and actions of all their "friends".

You-the people of this forum are an example of love and care, any who are JW's would be well served to follow your loving example and spirit. It is certainly not over dramatizing to comment about the cold and callous attitude of Jehovah's Witnesses, it is all too true.

Deb

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Somebody please tell me, funeral for a disfellowshipped child

by freein89 in

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i looked at our little local paper today and saw a young man had died.

he was the 20 year old son of jw's that used to be very dear friends.

i noticed that the funeral is to be held at the local funeral home and not at the kingdom hall.

freein89

I looked at our little local paper today and saw a young man had died. He was the 20 year old son of JW's that used to be very dear friends. I noticed that the funeral is to be held at the local funeral home and not at the Kingdom Hall. The visitation was beginning just as I was reading the paper. I had not seen these people since '89 when I DA'd. They were such dear friends, he was and may still be an elder, their kids and mine played together. I mustered up my courage and went to the visitation, just got back. I saw two JW couples there and a few JW young people, but mostly non-JW's. I asked some of the obviously non-JW young people there and was told that he had been disfellowshipped. Here is my question, will a JW preside at the funeral tomorrow. Are they allowed, I have been out so long and I just don't know anymore. Is it up to the individual or is it forbidden to preside at the funeral? Please let me know. The father of the boy whom I had not seen these many years sobbed in my arms at the visitation. Where are all their friends? What will happen. What is the borg's stand on this?

Deb

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Where to start?

by lookinlively in

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i'm new to this, i've spent the past 2 years trying to pull my head out of the bs.

i've refused to live a double life - i have nothing to hide - apparently others think otherwise!

so i'm ignored - no problem, makes the bs easier to ignore.

freein89

Welcome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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The Dark Side - Funny!

by SpannerintheWorks in

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spanner

freein89

That was sick and cruel, I LOVE IT.

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If Ella Fitzgerald married Darth Vader

by freein89 in

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her name would be ella vader

freein89

Her name would be Ella Vader

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WHY THE HELL DO I STILL FEEL GUILTY??!!

by Mary in

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ok, i've known for a long time now that this is not "the one true religion", but i can't for the life of me, seem to make the final break.

i seldom go to meetings and am usually bored out of my mind when i do go, but for the life of me, after i've missed about 3 or 4 weeks i start feeling guilty about "missing meetings" and i'll go.

i'm really frustrated and angry with myself that i can't make the break, but in all honesty, there's still some people at the hall that i care about and i guess i'd miss them if i left completely.

freein89

Mary,

I felt guilty at first, I think we all do, you WILL get over it. Once I made the decision to get out that was it! I delt with the guilt and fear until it passed. It does take some time but is worth the effort. I used to believe that "fading" was for chickens, but I have modified my stand on that. Many here have made the decision to fade, but it must be done carefully. Check some of the old threads here about fading. Some have given step by step instructions on how to fade successfully.

Some of us have decided to Disassociate ourselves, it is a tough choice. do your homework and make your decision from there. P. M. me if you have any questions or need advice or help on the DA, thing, if a fade is more your style, do the same with "fader". Hey, I just thought of a name for a fader-----DARTHFADER!!!!!!!!!!!!

Deb

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sigh is it over yet?

by arrowstar in

before i begin let me just say that this is just a rambling from a tired and scared gal, who in her heart knows that it's all going to be just fine.

i just need to babble for a bit and get it out of my system.. as some of you know, i'll be moving to a new apartment on saturday.

this came about because where i'm currently living has raised my rent beyond my means.

freein89

Arrowstar,

Moving is a gut wrenching experience, it always gets me into a crying jag. Sounds like you are exhausted. But once you get into your new place you'll feel better.

Deb

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Quote from new "Great Teacher" book...

by razorMind in

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i read with great interest the scanned pages that were shown on the other thread.

i really want to get a copy of this book for myself.

here's a direct quote from the chapter about satan and his deeeminz:

freein89

captain winky and mrs hyman

HA!

21

why I left

by teejay in

about ten years ago, i started doing research into the jw religion.

it took a personal event to make me want to do that for the first time in thirty years.

blindly believing what i was told wasn't working anymore.

freein89

beautifully articulated and so very true, I have to go put on a hat so I can tip my hat to you. The same thing happened to me, when I realized that it was all LIES, I was out of there no matter what the cost and the cost was very high.

The funny thing is as you stated so eloquently is that they have taught us how and why we should leave and damn the cost. We must find the truth and adhere to it - our lives depend on it. In this case it is our emotional lives we must save, to find the truth and ignore it is to sacrifice our souls, our being, our essence for comfort and security. Cannot, must not do that, ever.

Thankyou Teejay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!