I am the first to admit to being "daddy's gurl". It's true, that the relationship between child and opposite-sex parent is a special one.
She wants the org to tell her what to do. She wants the org to tell her she is being a bad girl or good girl.
This, though, can be changed. There is the aspect of the b'Org, but the 'critical voices' in one's head are the ones implanted by the b'Org. Scripts that were 'learned' in childhood - the bad parent in your head, always criticizing, always saying "BAD GIRL". Look up "transactional analysis", and you may get a better understanding of the need for approval. She needs to learn to be her own parent, and be able to hear and reinforce positive messages. xx