about seven weeks ago i posted here for the first time.
in that post i said i'd like to be reinstated but felt it likely wouldn't happen because the shunning was too much for me.
well, my prayers have been answered and i am reinstated.
NG
I will miss having you in my 'world'. If we ever had the chance to meet, you would have to shun me. That makes me feel sad for all you are giving up.
Take care of yourself. You are a strong womin, so as Nina and Brummie said, look out for those in the cong that are alone. Be a real sister to them, and try to protect the children.
xo
tal
did you feel that you were made to become a witness through coercion, threats or other means?
if you did not feel forced to become a jw, why did you stay??
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nilfun said it for me
mine
imagine by john lennon he went to paris by jimmy buffett raindrops keep falling on my head by b j thomas the voice by the moody blues express yourself by madonna
Here's 5 (of abt 500) I can think of off the top of my head
a man needs a maid - neil young
fairytale of New york City - the pogues
Pieces of April - three dog night
Jealous Guy - John lennon
She's crafty - beastie boys
tal
(I am a Rock & Wildflower were my two favs growing up)
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today i found out through my ex sisters-in-law that my jw daughter, heather is engaged and will be getting married on september 21. i am not invited.. estee
{{{{estee}}}}
This shunning is so hurtful, the pain can be physical. We have no choice but to survive it as best we can.
I'm not a mom, but a daughter, so have dealt with it on the other end. Those we love hurt us the most.
I have found that spending time with friends, and conversely having alone-time to grieve works for me. Getting out of the house, especially by the ocean, is something I find particularly comforting.
It's good that you are reaching out to others who understand. Set your radar on 'receive' for all the good intent that is coming your way. If there is anything I can do (listen, share, whatever) please pm me. Gosh, I'm sorry.
talesin
How the hell am I gonna keep my cool infront of these 5 scary figures?
Panel interviews can be intimidating. Keep in mind that they are just people.
You have been doing the job for 6 months and know it inside and out. You are the best candidate for this job. Know it. Live it. Don't discuss it with anyone who will discourage you and/or create a lot of drama around the interview.
Sit down and decide what preparation is NEEDED. Before the interview (abt one week, or whenever you feel is right), do the preparation. Rehearse the presentation if need be. Put it away, review at the last minute (night before). Do not worry constantly for the next month. All this will do is stress you out.
Be prepared to tell them that YOU are the best person for this job because (add your list of personal attributes, accomplishments and/or qualifications here).
You could also do a trial run with a couple of friends and have them be really intimidating, putting you on the spot and giving you scenarios under which you will have to problem-solve. This is invariably what happens in these interviews. They are really interested in how you handle the pressure.
Above all, take a deep breath and walk in there feeling confident because you KNOW you are the best. Your positive intent will communicate to them in many non-verbal ways.
(I would wish you luck but I know you don't need it )
signed,
the interview queen aka tal
(she may not always get her man, but she always gets the job)
ps. If for any reason this does not work, it's all about POLITICS.
first, the tee-up: many on this board are former jws.
former jws fall into two categories:.
1) those who consciously chose out, perhaps as an intellectual position, perhaps as an emotional reaction to some event, maybe while in the throes of some existential crisis.. 2) those who blew it, and got busted for (cue music) breakin the law, breakin' the law, breakin' the law.
'the best revenge is living well'
oscar wilde
have you ever met a single guy/girl at a jw convention, and thought so highly of him/her until you really found out what they were like?
{{{{{gadget}}}}}
yes, I know what you mean, that's why I mentioned it (17 for marriage). I think it's important for us to remember how warped they are.
talesin (who is so happy to be free)
this old fart is now officially 39 years old.
this old fart will be over the hill next year!
ah, life!
Hey, I wasn't kiddin', Yiz. After 40, I really started to get to know myself and feel more confident about things. I'm real happy for you abt yr new job and turning forty.
Sending a huge hug,
I remain,
yours,
talesin
ps. thanks for all the jokes, you have made my day more than once
i have posted at this site for over two years.
i have posted nearly 6,000 posts here, and for the most part i've posted as francois, or i've not identified myself with a screen name at all.
i've never directly identified myself.
Ditto the comments of Rayzor and KGB. Cheers to ya, Frank!!
talesin
arrghhhhh!! I'll get it, I know I will!!!!
tks for the brain-teaser, sweetie.
tal
ps. are you sure it wasn't to do with Spock? everything, will be all right .....
ack! It's driving me crazy. And believe me, it's a SHORT DRIVE!!
(heh, heh)
