Posts by quellycatface

My husband targeted me as a JW and managed to isolate, manipulate and control me for 15 years. I was so naive and trusting. I was so used to being controlled by the witnesses, I didn’t realise what he was doing.

I had 3 major suicide attempts last year and struggle with my mental health. Sometimes I feel like I’m going crazy. He told me so many lies over the years and “gaslighted’ me, I still doubt my own judgment.

I feel like I’ve wasted the last few years running around trying to please first the witnesses then my husband and I was never good enough.

Thank you for listening.

God bless you all.

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Prison chaplain.

by quellycatface in

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i'm rather gobsmacked to hear that an elder in my ex congregation has been appointed a prison chaplain (in the uk).

the reason for my disbelief, is that, this particular prison is for "schedule 1" offenders - covering sex crimes, child abuse/paedophilia and even downloading child pornography.

the reason for my reaction is that he has at least 9 "disciples" who have a bible study but i cannot help but think that when they are released, they will be part of a congregation, where they will have access to children and vulnerable people?

quellycatface

I'm rather gobsmacked to hear that an elder in my ex congregation has been appointed a prison chaplain (In the UK). The reason for my disbelief, is that, this particular prison is for "Schedule 1" Offenders - covering sex crimes, child abuse/paedophilia and even downloading child pornography.

The reason for my reaction is that he has at least 9 "disciples" who have a bible study but I cannot help but think that when they are released, they will be part of a congregation, where they will have access to children and vulnerable people? I know people can change but many of these paedophiles are just wired "wrong" and have little control of their urges and subsequent actions.

Bear in mind that I was horribly shunned for marrying out of the truth, It's a crazy set of rules given the above situation and I'm pretty angry about it. No doubt the elder in question is fawned upon by attaining such a public acclaim but really?? Bible studies with rapists, child abusers and sex offenders. I don't buy it.

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My mother's treatment. Unreal.

by quellycatface in

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i disassociated myself 3 years ago but have never told my mother, as she lives quite a distance from me in the uk.

i've have told her that i no longer go to meetings, neither does my son, who is 16.. i haven't seen her for 3 1/2 years.

i offered to come visit this week but she was incredibly offhand with me and said she couldn't meet with me today as she was on the ministry!!

quellycatface

Hi Stan! She's still living the dream in Shanklin, knocking on doors in Victoria Ave. Silly old crock!!!

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My mother's treatment. Unreal.

by quellycatface in

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i disassociated myself 3 years ago but have never told my mother, as she lives quite a distance from me in the uk.

i've have told her that i no longer go to meetings, neither does my son, who is 16.. i haven't seen her for 3 1/2 years.

i offered to come visit this week but she was incredibly offhand with me and said she couldn't meet with me today as she was on the ministry!!

quellycatface

I disassociated myself 3 years ago BUT have never told my mother, as she lives quite a distance from me in the UK. I've have told her that I no longer go to meetings, neither does my son, who is 16.

I haven't seen her for 3 1/2 years. I offered to come visit this week but she was incredibly offhand with me and said she couldn't meet with me today as she was on the ministry!! I would only be able to be around for 2 days due to work etc....

I am so upset, even though I should know what she is like by now. Even when I was a witness, she always made me feel inadequate in some way. I didn't help that I married out of the truth and she can't seem to understand how my marriage is still working and we've raised a good kid. She never seems interested in him either, never even given him a bit of pocket money or present BUT she has money for taxis to the kingdom hall and hotels/transport to the conventions.

Sorry for the rant but I've had enough.

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So haven't been on here in 10 months

by sooner7nc in

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what's new?

anybody pass away or otherwise have a life changing experience?

quellycatface

I'm still kicking around. Been out of the truth 2 years now. Still enjoying my freedom and stuff. I reckon some kind of Armageddon is coming though. Watch this space I guess??

Love to you all.

X

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Describe Your Favorite Breakfast

by minimus in

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i am very hungry this morning and i want ideas..

quellycatface

Not fair!! You guys across the pond really know about breakfast. Look at Man vs Food, for example.

I would love waffles, bacon and maple syrup to start please and REALLY good, hot coffee.

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Unevenly yoked - it does work!!!

by quellycatface in

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just wanted to share with my friends, old and new, i got married to an "unbeliever" 11 years ago.. at the weekend we had our marriage blessed in our local parish church with a little party after.. my husband always supported my religious convictions until i disassociated myself in december 2013.. don't deprive yourself of love just because of the jw's.

life is too short.. god bless.

xxxx.

quellycatface

Just wanted to share with my friends, old and new, I got married to an "unbeliever" 11 years ago.

At the weekend we had our marriage blessed in our local parish church with a little party after.

My husband ALWAYS supported my religious convictions until I disassociated myself in December 2013.

Don't deprive yourself of love just because of the JW's. Life is too short.

God bless. Xxxx

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Merry Christmas and a hopeful 2015.

by quellycatface in

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haven't posted much recently as i've been busy but in a good way!!.

it's been a pretty awful couple of weeks in the news with terrorist attacks, which took the shine off the christmas build up.

i wonder if anyone thinks it may all be building up to something??

quellycatface

Hi everyone. Haven't posted much recently as I've been busy but in a good way!!

It's been a pretty awful couple of weeks in the news with terrorist attacks, which took the shine off the Christmas build up.

I wonder if anyone thinks it may all be building up to something?? Good versus evil etc.... It does make you think if more powerful forces are in control. Any thoughts??

God bless. XX

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Feeling down as Christmas nears

by Quandry in

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i don't think i've started but one or two threads before.

i find myself sitting here listening to beautiful instrumental christmas music and feeling down.. you see, i was "in" for over thirty years.

thirty years with no christmas.

quellycatface

I'm so sorry you feel down. It's a tricky time of year.

My Mum is still "in" and so disappointed I am out and going to a mainstream church. I hung the phone up on her late August and I haven't spoken to her since. Her husband is a non-jw and really misses Christmas. I feel sorry for him. At least we are free to celebrate as we wish.

Thinking of you.

Merry Christmas and a peaceful New Year.