treatment of jw's w/ubm's

by carla 17 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

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  RichieRich

  what richie rich says...is the god's truth,

  you know, im going to save this page.

  and once I'm all out of the apostate closet, Im going to show her that I was right... about something at least once.
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  Soledad

  How are jw's treated by the cong when they have a ubm?

  In my congregation they were treated with superficial kindness and concern, however, whenever a real problem came up the silence and lack of empathy was stunning. Too many women were advised to stay or reconcile with their abusive mates.

  As far as how we were treated, we were outcasts. Excluded completely from any social function, unless an extra cook or cleaner or extra $$$ were needed, then all of a sudden we were thought of.
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  Gretchen956

  As far as how we were treated, we were outcasts. Excluded completely from any social function, unless an extra cook or cleaner or extra $$$ were needed, then all of a sudden we were thought of.

  Too true, thats exactly how it was for me too. And whoever said the kids are treated differently is right on the money. After I left my son was shunned and he would have kept going without me, initially. If he's an exjw today they have only themselves to thank. Buncha jackasses!

  Sherry
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  rebel8

  RR & FF, Have your congregations never read the literature (and scriptures) that repeatedly say to be kind to people with ubms or ub parents? What I said is they are told to be kind but do not carry it out in practice. Are you saying your congregations came out and told JWs to be cold and mean to ubm families?
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  RichieRich

  Are you saying your congregations came out and told JWs to be cold and mean to ubm families?

  
  

  
  No, our brothers are great about leading by example.

  Ok, so who do you want your son to spend the night with, the elder's son, or the kid who's mom struggles to regular pioneer and goes home every night to a man covered in tattoos?

  My father actually came to a few congregation cookouts. All the brothers were assholes to him, he got mad, and left. So then, everyone was afraid to cross us, because they thought that if he got mad, he'd beat the shit outta them.

  One of my young friends thought my dad worshipped satan because he had a beard and tattoos. I asked him where he got that idea from... and he said "that's what my mom told me" So there you have it. Judging books by their covers again...
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  jgnat

  No, our brothers are great about leading by example.

  Touche, Rich. Good on your dad.
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  tetrapod.sapien

  the elders have not talked with my wife at all in 9 months, although she goes in service once a week, and makes most of her meetings. not even a smile and "nice to see you here this evening". they have written her off. i wonder if they have wagers on how long it will take her to leave.

  other people in the hall and other halls have been spreading straight out lies against her and my biological sister, without even stopping to check and see if it was true or not. this is all because i DA'd. one of the lies was that i had called my sister's elders and screamed at them a bunch of apostate stuff. when my sister went and asked them if this was true, they all said that they had never spoken to me in their entire lives, let alone gotten any crazy phone calls.

  my mom's elders have not spoken with her in 9 months either, and she has missed tonnes of meetings, and is irregular in FS. no concerned sisters calling, no elders taking her under their wings of holy spirit.

  so my experience, is that they generally treat jw's with ub-family members as second rate.

  this is evidence of jehovahs spirit being totally absent on this organization.

  and IMO, this is also annecdotal evidence of there being no god. because if there was a true, loving and merciful god, he would have found them by now because they truly do have good hearts. even i can tell that with no supernatural powers. god is a f*cking wimp SOB.

  TS
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  misspeaches

  Ah being the child of a mother with a UBM...

  Let me tell you it was a childhood of unhappiness. My siblings and I were blatantly exculded from social gatherings. We were ignored in the Kingdumb hall. We were ignored out in field service. We were told it was OUR FAULT. That we should be reaching out for relationships with older people in the congregation. Um sorry... tried that one too. Turns out those older ones really don't want to spend any time with someone elses kids.

  Yes the brotherly love was overwhelming. Our body of elders were real selfish bastards.