Balsam:
I am still searching for answers, and while I do I think of my sweet faced son who died tragically at 15 through no fault of his own. Killed by another JW boy in our congregation
God, that`s just horrible. My condolences. You managed to live thru that, I can`t even imagine the strength that took. I can`t even imagine what it would be like to lose a child. My son is 3 years old. I don`t even dare to think that something could happen to him. Experiencing what you did, there`s absolutely no wonder you feel the way you do, about religion.
The way I see it, is: IF there is a God, he must be perfect, and obviously higher ethical standars than myself. He wouldn`t be a god that is jealous, vindictive, a god that demands that his "children" worship him constantly. We don`t even demand that of our own children, and in a sense, we created them. I expect my child to obey me, yes, at least on some crucial points (don`t run into the street, kid, there`s a car coming) and until a certain age (eh...5 ?)...but worship? Nooo. And I would expect a God to be of no lower ethical standards than myself, to say the least. I am perfectly and painfully aware though, that the God I am here describing, is probably not the God of the Bible, certainly not the OT, and probably not the NT.
People don't have to believe in a God to live good ethical lives that bring happiness and joy and do no harm to others
Agreed. Actually, I think people who are not religious, but still live good ethical lives, are more admirable than religious people, who try to live ethically right on the basis of reward/punishment. If the only thing that made me not go out and rape, steal and murder, was the threat of eternal damnation and/or eternal hellfire and/or eternal non-existence, that wouldn`t mean I was a good person, would it? In discussions with JWs, they often use this "well, if there is no God or no true religion, then there is no point in not living like a sinner, is it? Well, then you can live in drunkeness, fornication, adultery, etc..." - statements that really say more about their own personal, level of ethical awareness, than it does about religion. Abscense of religion isn`t the same as nihilism.
In the words of the scottish philosopher David Hume, in the 18th century: "Whenever I meet a christian, I instinctively suspect him of being evil".