NORMAN MEREDITH: The contradiction is they expect men to have very good communication skills but to be maybe like their girlfriends but then, at the same time, they want the man to be tough and provide security.
I couldn't read all of the transcript. I will comment on this though. I am finding, with my current sweetheart, that men and women can communicate. This is a delightful surprise. Not all men are emotionally distant and cold stone walls when it comes to communicating with women.. And yes, most of us women want the men in our lives to have backbone and to know how to assert themselves. People, men or women, who stand up for themselves and those they love, will get more respect.
You fellows have to admit that an awful lot of men make it a point to go on and on about big breasts. This does affect women's ideas of what men want. Even women with large breasts can feel self conscious if their breasts aren't firm and shaped nicely. Why? Because Playboy and like magazines high light those kinds of breasts.
I've noticed that if you look through the list of member created chatrooms on AOL, even the gay men's chatrooms can be very specific about anatomy. And if you look at the profiles of the gay men, often they describe themselves in great detail. They give hair and eye color, height, weight, etc. They tell you whether they are hairy or smooth and they will even give you the measurement of their members in inches. They know there are men who are looking specifically for what they have.
I don't usually watch Dr. Phil, but today I did. There was a man on who is 30 and is still a virgin. He has this specific woman in mind, even wrote her a letter ten years ago. He's never met her and doesn't even know if she truly exists. But she is his soulmate/dream woman and he is saving himself for her and being loyal to her. He's decided that her name is Sara, she's blonde and is a beauty queen. He's so fixated on this fantasy woman that he tells every woman he dates that she doesn't measure up to Sara.
What the world needs if for men who aren't picky, and who just really want to be loved, to speak up more loudly than the shallow men. This would help the cause of men a lot. We girls would benefit greatly, too.