I'm sorry to hear about this. I've been called an apostate too, but I played-it-down when two elders came calling. Actually, they had a bent on "keeping the congregation clean," which means finding enough evidence that you're a wicked person and in need of confronting a committee of three elders; when elders call, just remember that they're not there to help. Therefore, I would suggest that in the future you present your concerns as someone who had doubts, rather than presenting the Society as the evil empire that it is. This will prevent you from being kicked-out and in having your family connection severed. There's nothing that people can do to make you go to meetings or read the literature, but being DF'd or disassociated will have lasting ramifications with family ties that might not be bearable. I don't think you want that, but I sympathize with you having been there.