Are you honest with yourself, about how much time you spend online?

free2beme

I was filling out a form to register a product this week and one of the questions asked, "how much time do you spend online?" As much as I wanted to say, "about an hour every two weeks," I know it is more. I don't spend nearly as much time as I used too, and actually go several days without even turning on a computer. When I do come online though, I have some games I play and message boards I like to read that do take time. What I was wondering though, are you honest about how much time you spend online or do you try to convince yourself that it is only a minute or two here and there? I wonder why we try to hide our online usage. Do we feel guilty or do we worry we will look pathetic? Anyway, how much time do you spend online ... honestly?

FlyingHighNow

Oh, I'll tell anyone that I spend too much time on line. It comes in spurts, but sometimes less, sometimes more and sometimes so much my butt gets numb.

onacruse

Not near as much as I used to spend! LOL

And, I never post from work...too much to do.

If I may be so bold as to offer this perspective:

If we are growing, we go through phases, of one sort or another. In my case, JWD became almost an obsession; between the board and chat-room, almost every waking hour, for months on end, it was the focus of my life.

It served an incredible purpose, and still does serve a very useful purpose, both for me, and for many many others.

But, in a sense, all good things come to a happy ending...and I express this thought in the most positive way.

Perhaps that's the most challenging aspect of the db environment: We become empowered to finally express our feelings, and share them with others, in a way we've never before experienced. And yet, with that very empowerment, as we wave that "magic wand" in our hands, do we have the personal conviction to really and finally step back and fully disengage from the conflicts that have consumed us?

Obviously, I haven't...but I like to think that my participation, such as it is, is increasingly useful to others, and decreasingly useful to myself.

I envision myself sitting on sandy beaches, with a winning Lottery ticket in my hand, tossing flowers and various mixed drinks on Kate's nekked body. LOLOL

colorado5591

3 or 4 or more everyday depending on the day.

FlyingHighNow

It served an incredible purpose, and still does serve a very useful purpose, both for me, and for many many others.
But, in a sense, all good things come to a happy ending...and I express this thought in the most positive way.

So there's hope for me? You think? That I'll burn out a little and not be so drawn to reading and posting here? Please say yes.

onacruse

FHN,

Of course, I certainly can't speak for you, or for whatever needs you have in your life, at this time. So, a straight "yes" or "no" will not be forthcoming from me!

However, I'm reminded of something someone said to me, not too long ago: "There comes a time when the cure becomes the poison."

Gives one pause for thought...almost like scratching at the scab, and thus the wound continues unhealed.

In that respect, when the WTS changed its policy (early 80s) re how to treat DFd people, and my folks let off of trying to get me back in--it was like a breath of fresh air, like finally the wolves were off my back, and I could just try to live again.

Again, I'm not offering any personal advice...just sharing an experience that may have some relevance.

FlyingHighNow

However, I'm reminded of something someone said to me, not too long ago: "There comes a time when the cure becomes the poison."
Gives one pause for thought...almost like scratching at the scab, and thus the wound continues unhealed.

Thank you, Ona. I was thinking, just today, about the bad things I have gone through in my life and how I didn't linger so long in recovery over them. I wondered if being a reader and poster here slows my recovery. I have changed and made some progress since I really started to investigate the org. deeply in 2001. I had been inactive so many years by then, probably close to ten years.

lola28

Too much. I post the most when I am at work and have nothing to do, this week has been busy so I have not posted as much lately. I kind of got freaked out when I saw the stats and realized that I was the #1 poster, I made senior member in like two days. I never post from home because the time I spend there is so limited, I don't want to spend my evenings posting or on the computer when I have my family to speak with and friends to call.

lola

Cygnus

As I'm not working and have no car, I spend 14-20 hours a day online. Mostly JWD, newspapers, espn.com, and partypoker.com, with some games.com mixed in.

Undecided

Since I have very little else to do right now, I spend several hours a day on the computer or rather in front of the computer. I read just about every post on JWD.

Ken P.

Are you honest with yourself, about how much time you spend online?

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