Path,
I do understand what you are saying about the lost feeling of security as a result of questioning what once seemed unquestionable.
It would seem to be a matter of perspective, as most everything is. In this case, we perceive a loss if our former expectations may not actually be realized. But, what if we never had had such expectations in the first place? Would we feel better or worse when we contemplate our destiny? How would this affect the way we live our lives?
What if we entertain no certain hope of miraculous intervention, even though we recognize that it is a possibility? Would our lives really be worse by comparison? Or would we take more responsibility for our lives and surrender less power to others? Some atheists would seem very "Christian" to those observing them without asking of their beliefs about God.
Religions of all kinds are successful in no small part because people want to believe that death is not the end of their existence. In exchange for promises of eternal life from those who claim to have communicated with our Creator, people are willing to make any number of sacrifices demanded of them and even stop thinking for themselves. Many are even willing to kill others (especially unbelievers) when their religious authority tells them that it is God's will.
If after death we move on to some other form of existence due to the Creator's will or intervention, is it reasonable to believe that the Creator will hold men accountable to one of the many religious dogmas that fill the earth? If so, how are we to be certain beyond a doubt which of the many contradictory belief systems is actually from God and for which we must sacrifice now to qualify for an afterlife?
I find it more reasonable to believe that any afterlife that the Creator has arranged for mankind is assured, regardless of the formal belief system (if any) practiced. We are quick to add, though, "What about the murderers and rapists and child-abusers, etc.?" We want to be reassured that they will be punished not only now, but also in the afterlife! (But, of course, God LOVES every one of us, right?) Enter your religion of choice -- hellfire, damnation, purgatory, or even better -- eternal NON-EXISTENCE. Why not just let God worry about their afterlife since we have no control over it anyway?
I personally find that freedom from enslavement to a religious organization and from a narrow interpretation of God and his judgment has allowed me to be happier and more tolerant of differences in others. I enjoy all types of people more than before. I am not burdened with a need to categorize and judge people who do not conform to a proscribed belief system. I leave that to God. I enjoy knowing that I can be responsible for my own happiness, whether others agree with me or not. I enjoy viewing each day of life as a reward in itself, and not just doing time, waiting for God to save me from the "unbelievers" and this "wicked world". Is this a way of saying that reduced expectations can bring greater satisfaction? Perhaps it is. But I don't necessarliy view that as settling for less. Didn't Christ make some similar points in his Sermon on the Mount?
But, like Dennis Miller says after one of his rants, "That's just my opinion. You may disagree." And that's okay to disagree. Not to share, however, is a shame.