I tried to not let it get to me and cultivate the right attitude - but when it was NEPOTISM - I got really pissed off
How Did You Feel When You Were Passed Up For A "Privilege"?
by minimus 21 Replies latest jw friends
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GetBusyLiving
The only reason I ever took the "priviledges" anyways was to try to woo the "upstanding single sisters". Otherwise I never gave a rat's shit.
GBL
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chrissy
wait? what am i saying? LOL. women dont get any privileges in the org.
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AK - Jeff
I spent years 'reaching out' for elder. They never gave it to me cause I said it like it was, and did not play politics with them. I did a heavy MS though - talks thru the circuit - parts of ass'blys ect.
One time the BOE voted unanimously to make me elder and it got shot down by the CO. He told me the same thing I had been hearing for years that I did not play nice - I was too blunt - and he actually said that I failed in the single most important qualification - being able to agree with the organization and the local body even if I thought they were wrong. Funny he never mentioned those 'Biblical qualifications'.
I guess I was just an apostate in the making for a long time. I do not miss any of it I would not kiss ass, and I have no regrets there.
Jeff
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minimus
Jeff, you clearly would've been an elder that the rest of the congregation liked, though.
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Finally-Free
I used to get a little pissed when all the Brothers™ were getting appointed as ministerial servants™, particularly when they weren't doing the jobs assigned to them, and I was having to cover their asses.
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Forscher
Finally said it better than me. At one point I was the only Brother not on the servant/elder body in my congregation. Yet I was doing the sound, magazines, asistant bookstudy conductor for an isolated group, and other things because nobody could be bothered to do their jobs. I was told that since I was single, and the Bible said that only "married" men could positions in the congregation, I couldn't be appointed as a ministerial servant. I could have all the work, but no position.
Six months after I got married, I was relieved of all my priviledges because the Circuit Overseer was insisting that they stop dicking around and recommend me. It seemed he was of the position that if I had so much work and did it faithfully, then they had to appoint me. Their answer was to relieve me without even the courtesey of a hearing with me or notice. I simply walked into the Hall one night and was informed by the MSs that they were no longer allowed to use me. I found out why later.
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Finally-Free
I was relieved of all my priviledges because the Circuit Overseer was insisting that they stop dicking around and recommend me. It seemed he was of the position that if I had so much work and did it faithfully, then they had to appoint me. Their answer was to relieve me without even the courtesey of a hearing with me or notice. I simply walked into the Hall one night and was informed by the MSs that they were no longer allowed to use me. I found out why later.
That is exactly what happened to me! They even wouldn't let me pioneer™ anymore.
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Dune
This is a weird story.
I basically have been doing all the things the guys above have mention (except the magazine counter, I assist with accounts). Anyway, I've always felt second to this other guy who was a son of an elder and a pioneer. However, this guy was NEVER appointed. and we are about the same age (i'm older by a month). So i always figured that regardless of what i'm doing, i'd never become an MS before he did.
It just really amazes me how you can work, work, work and sacrifice and one day wake up and realize that it was all for nothing. I mean seriously. The people in my congregation take the fact that i'm a college student as a reason to look down on me, despite that fact that i'm being used for everything and have been on the Circuit assembly recently.
Anyway, i average about 16/17 hours a month. Well, this elder who i was mentioning in my last topic mentioned that one of the reasons that i havent been appointed yet is that my hours are too low and the other is that they think that i might not be able to bear under the responsibility due to the fact that i work, go to college and do all this other crap.
O well, i'm just waiting for that ONE thing to send me over the edge now.
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minimus
Ahhhhh, college. This is the new (re-occuring)big one. You're no good if you go to college. You're now looked down upon by the others. You're told you probably won't get that good of a job just because you went to university, anyway. Yet in the 80's it wasn't viewed the same. This is not "new light". This is "blinking light">