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I think you have made a wise decision. It seems to me that if you keep this between you and your sister you shouldn't have a problem. If someone gets wind of your relationship, you can always say that you had a family problem you needed to discuss. That is a legitmate reason to talk.

Welcome to the board. We here have opinions on almost everything, and sometimes we are right. -:)

humble

Sorry to hear about your sis. Pray to Jehovah about this. He will comfort you and lead the way. You should let your sister know how you feel. Try to see if she is repentant and help her understand the value of her relationship with Jehovah. Visiting this forum will not help you. Jehovah knows better that anyone what can make us happy. Listen to him by reading his Word. Find comfort in his words. Talk to an elder and express to him your feelings. This will help you.

Sincerely,

A friend.

Naeblis

Now run along Sunny and do as good brother "Humble" instructs. Nothing to see here. Move along. Nothing to see here.

nelly136

nice to meet you, and I'm glad youre
still talking to your sister,
nelly

RedhorseWoman

Sunny, congratulations on thinking for yourself and for showing compassion.

I do agree with Humble in one aspect, and that is that Jehovah knows what will make us happy, and your sister should not forget her relationship with Him.

What she needs to realize (and you, also) is that God does not reside in Brooklyn, and having a relationship with Him does NOT mean attending a Kingdom Hall. He loves you and your sister no matter where you are.

Being disfellowshipped does not mean that you are no longer one of His children, nor does it mean that He no longer loves you. All it means is that a man-made organization has put pressure on you to conform to its rules and regulations.

Keep Jehovah in your heart, and He will guide you AND your sister. ***HUGS****

myMichelle

How do you know this Humble?

Visiting this forum will not help you.

Curious,
Michelle

nytelecom1

my sister is df'd....my whole family who are all witnesses, including myself still speak to her. Oh sure there are those that talk behind your back...your responsiblity lies with your immediate family, never give that up. The org has lightened up regarding family df's.

riz

Hi sunny

do yourself a favor and don't talk to an elder and express your feelings as humble suggests. If you go to an elder and tell him you are going to speak with your sister regardless of her being disfellowshipped, plan on being disfellowshipped also.

I'm not disfellowshipped. I was a jw for many years and I walked. However, my best friend is df'd. Would I ever even think of shunning him? Not a chance.

Disfellowshipping is a most unloving and inhumane practice. If refusing to turn my back on a loved one is going to get me disfellowshipped, so be it.

As far as I'm concerned, if I was told to either cut off all contact with my friend or be df'd, I'd have to tell the elders to sit and spin.

There are lots of great people here, and you will find support. I'm glad you finally decided to post.

riz

Billygoat

Sunny,

Welcome! I'm glad you're here and hope you keep coming back! I'm proud of you for not shunning your sister. I know there are many JW's in this world that would do well to follow your footsteps, but at the same time I understand why they do it. But if they did stop shunning, there wouldn't be so many broken families! I'm looking forward to hearing more from you!

Andi