My Aunt Passed Away & I'd like to talk (page 2)

seven006

Mike, I don't know you but in a way I do. I feel very sorry for your loss. My grandfather who I loved very much died a few weeks ago and because of all the bullshit with the JW's I didn't hear about it until three days after he died. He wasn't even a JW but the message of his death reached me through JW channels so I was the last to hear about it. I have become so numb about my family I didn't even shed a tear. I'm a tough guy and all but after reading your post I fucking hate to admit it but some tears are running down my face as I write this. Your post and the love that you have kept so precious in your heart for your aunt just made me loose it. I feel for you Mike. I feel for every god dammed one of us. Your words and your love and your anger opened me up and I thank you for that.

I'm sure when my Mom dies which is suppose to be fairly soon I will echo the last words that you posted here. I do not hate the JW people I do not hate my family I just hate that god dammed fucking group of assholes who makes up all the rules that steals out families from us. I hope each and every one of those bastards dies a painful and terrible death for what they have done. I know a discussion board hug or even any word that is meant to describe a warm human feeling will not comfort you or take the pain away. All I can do is share some of the pain and a few tears with you. It's amazing that my blood tied family can tell me my grandpa dies and it doesn't even effect me but when someone I don't even know shouts out his pain from the bottom of his heart it fucking brings me to the state of out right crying and tears.

Mike you woke me up with your beautiful words. I can't fucking stand this shit. I feel so bad for you. Sorry for the cussing, I am just so god dammed mad right now. I haven't cried in years, I hate to fucking cry.

Take care Mike and remember you have a lot of people who know exactly how you feel and have the honor in sharing some of your pain.

Dave

RedhorseWoman

Mike, I am so sorry about your loss. At a time when we should be able to get support from family and friends, this bizarre group turns the situation into a sales meeting for the cult. I hope that eventually your family will wake up and realize what is really important in life. Until then......******HUGS******

noidea

Mike,

I feel such like my heart is going to burst. I am soooo sorry for what you are having to deal with.
It makes me so angry that tomorrow so many will get up and go and try and convince people that they need to become JW's and be a part of a wonderful "loving brotherhood" that they walk in Jesus footsteps that they have compassion for people and that is why they are out there. Their words and deeds are so empty.
Please know that everyone here is feeling your pain.
Your heart will be there tomorrow your presence would only make them feel that you are pushing an issue, and that would take away the issue of the loss of someone that you truly loved.
Maybe they will wake up one day and realize the loss that they have in their lives by shunning and also feel the pain that they have been inflicting on others. so much for too little too late. WHAT A WASTE!

((((((hugs to you Mike and others that feel the pain of the WBTS!))))))

riz

Wow. There are so many strong emotions on this thread. I wish I could reach out and hug each and every one of you.

Dave, your post brought tears to my eyes. Between you and Mike, I can't help but cry. I truly feel a connection with all of us here.

I lost my dad and some of the emotions are still very raw for me so I can't talk about them yet. The jw bizarro world and the way they handle death and expect you to react to it is too much to go into right now without making me feel real anger.

Suffice it to say, I love you all and my heart hurts for you who are being torn apart emotionally right now. If I can support any of you in any way, please don't hesitate to email me.

riz

mommy

Oh Mike!
What a way to start the morning, I am sitting here with tears rolling down my eyes. I feel so bad for what you are going through. And I understand the anger and rage you are shouting at Brooklyn. All of those still in do not even see the pain we experience. They are trained on burying their emotions, even for the dead relatives. I can so relate to what Seven of Nine said one time, referring them to Stepford parents, or stepford family members.

How can they not see? Uggghhh It is so fustrating. What I have tried to do is feel sorry for them, instead of mourning my loss. It really is sad to go throughout your life and not be in charge of your emotions or your own mind. I really feel for my family that is still in. This takes away from the bite of rejection I feel when they turn it my way.

I hope the best or you, and laugh at those memories, Linda sounded like a great, fun person to be around. I am sure you will have many laughs over things she has done.

Dave Again you have touched my heart. Are you sure you want to stay single forever?
wendy

In a controversy the instant we feel anger, we have already ceased striving for the truth, and have begun striving for ourselves.

Kent

Sorry for your loss, Bendrr. I guess Francois's idea isn't at all bad...

Yakki Da

Kent

"The only difference between a fool and the JW legal department is that a fool might be sympathetic ."

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Kat_

Michael,

There's not much I can say that hasn't already been beautifully said in this thread. I just wanted to tell you how sorry I am not only for the loss of your Aunt Linda, but also for your other losses. You need support now more than ever and it's a shame that it's not available where it should be naturally. It's also upsetting to know that these people, Billy especially, are cutting off their noses to spite their faces. I am sure they need and could have gotten an abudance of comfort and friendship from an obviously caring family member, you, to help them in and share with them the grief of losing your Aunt, and they are missing out because of some groundless, cruel rule that they are blindly following. Again, I am sorry for your loss; and I am also sorry for theirs.

Kat

alliwannadoislive

shunning is so irrational and yet the doublethink is that it helps those shunned - is a loving, caring way of bringing them back to the 'truth' ... sigh ... my family was near destroyed by the WTS rules ... but like all the associates we have here, i have seen and felt so much more natural affection than ever i met in a kingdom hall ... stick with us friend ...

think41self

Mike,

I can't add anything to what has already been said, just that you have my sympathies and support also. Doug and I have both discussed how we would deal with the situation when we get notification of one of our relatives dying. All of our relatives are JW's, and we don't know if they will bother to tell us beforehand either. There are so many strong, mixed emotions involved...it is hard to say what we will do when the time comes. Just know that we are thinking about you.

think41self

"It is much more sensible to be an optimist instead of a pessimist, for if one is doomed to disappointment, why experience it in advance?"
Amelia Peabody Emerson

Latte

Bendrr,

So very sorry, about your Aunt. I am very sorry too for the pain which this practise causes you, for which the WBTS is GUILTY of. The practise of shunning it really terribly WRONG, the sentence which these MEN pass on other humans has far reaching effects, it lasts waaayy too long. It should never, ever of been meant to last. Where is the mercy which Jesus spoke about??? They have clearly forgotten. They have much to answer for.

It really quite DIGUSTING!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs to ya pal}}}}}}}}}}}

Latte

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