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jurs

Hello to anyone who cares,

I am in the fowlest of moods. Last week I started cosmetology school ( I love it so much ), anyhow who did I see there but another sister from my kingdom hall. She's also a student so I see her every day. I always thought she was nice and although I wasn't close to her I liked her. That little snip shunned me when I said Hi. Not only did the litlle snoot turn her head away with her nose in the air like I was trash but she puts herself in a position to shun me. I think she enjoys it !!
When I DA'd myself I thought if I ran into someone they would feel awkward and try and avoid me. Not the case here. I think she's trying to shame me.
I was telling another student that I've become friends with at this school how I was a JW . She told me her ex husbands family were witnesses and now her fiance is STUDYING with them. She's very upset. Perfect opportunity for me to bring her copies of apostate literature and Crisis of Conscience. I'm sure its eating at this siter how i'm giving out apostate literature and others can certainly hear. My favorite topic has been shunning !!
Last week I was shunned 2 times by different sisters while I was shopping. The town I live in is small and I will likely see them frequently now that I'm back home and no longer vacationing. I don't like it at all !!! It doesn't make me ashamed or embarresed at all it makes me downright MAD !!!
I didn't commit any offenses like adultry , smoking ect. I just simply DA'd myself for not believing. It is so WRONG. It is so obviously a cult to me now. It really bothers me when people say Jehovah's witnesses are like any other religion. I've even read that here . How can anyone think that? Catholics don't mistreat former catholics, ect. ect. ect. ONLY cults do that.
Thanks for a place to vent. I actually do feel better.

JURS

gsark

I like the idea of you spreading 'the good news of the Watchtower Kingdom' the way you do. You are just telling the truth. Hopefully that fiance won't get baptised, I would love to hear updates on that.

Congratulations on your school, you will be glad you went. Just finished nursing school myself not so long ago. Isn't it great! let me know when you finsih, we'll celebrate!

<"Get down off that cross; somebody needs the wood!">

ChuckD

Not that it makes your situation at school any easier, but at least this "sister" is forced to perform her shunning in the open, in full view of the rest of the world, and can't get away with it with just you to see it. She - not you - will continue to look like a jerk in the eyes of the other students. When you say hello to her and act friendly (as you should), and she responds by pretending she does not hear or see you, what would any reasonable person think? They would rightly conclude that the organization's policies are absurd. And when they learn that your "offense" was simply choosing not to be a member any longer, she will appear even more out of line.

Tina

(((((((((((jurs))))))))))))
I care! And that crappy behavior would get me mad as well!
Im glad you're sharing the truth about the 'trooth'.
If anyone should feel shamed it's the wts lemmings who practice such abusive behavior. Hang in there hun!luv,Tina

TweetieBird

Hi Jurs,

Even though you say you do not feel embarrassed or ashamed, just mad, no one deserves to be treated that way. Shunning was always a pet peeve of mine, even when I still believed it was the truth.

But try not to let that "sister" affect your life, it's just not worth it. Consider it her loss and sad misfortune that she is under the power of a cult. Maybe someday she will start to question her behavior and then come to you with questions. I think the majority of witnesses really hate the shunning part.

I look back and feel remorse for shunning those that were disfellowshipped. I thought I was doing what was right by Jehovah. She may feel the same way.

"By doubting we come at truth" -Cicero

noidea

Chin up jurs,

It is just showing her mentality. Be the bigger of the two and just treat her like you would anyone else (that always pisses someone off) Let her know how a true Christian should act. Vent here not at work it will really make her look stupid. By the way we care!

outnfree

oh, jurs, oh, jurs!!!!

PLEASE, please share the chapter in CofC on the political cards in Malawi and the military service "completed" cards in Mexico LOUDLY and IDIGNANTLY with the woman whose boyfriend is studying.

I'm with ChuckD and noidea that if you continue being pleasant and the sister keeps shunning you, she will turn out to be the poor "witness for Jehovah" and you will be seen to be the better person.

Enjoy the class, continue to refuse to be ashamed, and come here any ol' time when you need to vent.

SHUNNING SUCKS!!!

outnfree

Par dessus toutes choses, soyez bons. La bonte est ce qui ressemble le plus a Dieu et ce qui desarme le plus les hommes -- Lacordaire

Shaneliza

I live in a small town , and at one time I worked in the grocery store. Most of the JW's in town knew I was Df'd. When they were ready to check out their groceries, they would stand in any lane other than mine. It didn't matter if the line up was long or not. So what did I do? I would walk out around my till and invite them to come to my lane. (Of course this was done with the utmost professionalism hehehe.) And since is is imperative that you speak with the customers, I would chat non-stop while ringing through their order.

I say kill em' with kindness.

RedhorseWoman

Jurs, don't let her get to you. Just remember that you do not have to play by their rules, and SHE is acting like a fool. Be sure that you are pleasant to her. Let HER have to explain to fellow students why she is shunning you.

Most people don't realize that shunning occurs. I was speaking to a friend about religion the other day, and she was commenting about her feelings toward confession in the Catholic church. I mentioned the judicial committee of the JWs and the policy of shunning. She was totally shocked. She had never realized that JWs did something like that, and most people don't. You have probably been given one of the best opportunities in the world for demonstrating the bizarre inner workings of a cult.

Thirdson

Hey Jurs,

Despite the shunning and rudeness at least you are having some enjoyment and doing some real good telling the honest truth.

I have said it before, ex-JWs have a massive impact in dissuading ones from joining this religion. Even better, people willingly listen and are eager to know the ins and outs of the JW religion something not true when JWs peddle the religion door to door. The more ex's there are the more the real truth will be told.

Don't let the shunning get you down. Keep your chin up.

Thirdson

'To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing'

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