Thanks everyone for your replies
there are some good leads that i will follow up.
Part of me feels that my parents are (generally) happy where they are, they are still talking to me and accept my non-jw husband and my kids, so why stir it all up.
but another part of me feels REALLY P****D OFF at everything that has gone on, all the cover-ups and all that has happened in my family and so many others, that i want to scream it from the rooftops!!!
maybe i'm just a bit of a basket case, but with my upbringing i guess that's understandable. working this afternoon, and got a school presentation this evening, but will be back.........
i'm feeling a bit obsessed about this. my husband also says that i'm spending too much time on the net. I start reading profiles, following links, and the time just flies......
thanks again.....