New beginning/New life

by Junction-Guy 11 Replies latest jw friends

  • Junction-Guy
    Junction-Guy

    Well in case you havent heard yet, Amanda and I are separating. This has been a long time coming, but it is for the best. We have had a troubled marriage since day 1. Amanda's mom moved in with us 3 months ago after she lost her job up in Kentucky, and our life hasnt been the same since. We no longer have any common goal or hope between us, as I am planning to move to Ohio or Kentucky within a year, and Amanda will be staying here in Tennessee with her mom. I am definitely sad and have a lonesome feeling, but it is for the best that we go our separate ways. Living with Amanda has been one drama after the other, and my health cant take it anymore, I need to make a clean break. The decision to separate is hers, but Im not gonna fight it, because there is no hope for us. I need to move on with my life and try to repair 11 years worth of damage. I will still continue to carry on in my fight against the WT Society, but my funds will be limited, and I wont be attending as many Apostafests as I have in the past. Im gonna miss her in a way, but actually it will be a big relief and a burden lifted off my shoulders. I have told most of my family, with the exception of my JW Dad, but I havent talked with him in months anyway. Im thankful that I still have most of my family, and that my Mom and Brother stand by me, not only in my marital problems, but also against the WT Society. My brother Darin has been attending church, and has accepted Christ into his life. He is single now too and very lonely, but we both have our families and each other to get through these difficult times.

    What lies ahead for me?? Well I will be staying in Knoxville for another year, and then I will be moving to Ohio or Kentucky. I still would like to live in Texas, but thats too far away to be from my family.

    This is a new chapter in my life, and from here on out I will be very careful not to rush into marriage ever again, I married Amanda way too quickly back in 1994, thinking that Armageddon was imminent. I didnt take my time to discover who the "real" Amanda was, and I have paid dearly since.

    I wish everyone a bright a prosperous new year. I dont come to this board very frequently, but I still read it on a daily basis from home. Im still on my webtv, maybe someday I will get a real computer and have full access to this board.

    Dave

  • kls
    kls
    Well in case you havent heard yet, Amanda and I are separating.

    I am so sorry . Long time coming or not ,it is never easy.

  • lucifer
    lucifer

    that would be a hard time for you, i wish you all the best and luck in the future

  • Junction-Guy
    Junction-Guy

    Thank you very much KLS and Lucifer, it will get lonely these next few months, but Im gonna try to think positive and look to my future with a hopeful outlook.

    Dave

  • AlmostAtheist
    AlmostAtheist
    but Im gonna try to think positive and look to my future with a hopeful outlook.

    Separated or not, that's all any of us can do. Sorry for the disruption to your life and family, Dave, but you're approaching it well.

    Hang tough, lean on us if you need it. We're here.

    Dave

  • Bryan
    Bryan

    Sorry to hear it Dave, but sometimes it is for the best.

    Take care,

    Bryan

  • JAVA
    JAVA

    Dave -- I'm sorry things didn't work out, but sometimes they just don't. You seem to have a good spirit and that goes a long way in moving on in life. It was nice seeing you at our get-together in Dayton, Ohio last summer, and I wish you the very best in your new journey. My best reguards to you, your brother and mother--good folks!

  • Sheepish
    Sheepish

    Lord bless you and help you heal, I know how heart wrenching ending even a "bad" marriage can be.

  • cruzanheart
    cruzanheart

    Dave, I'm really sorry to hear that! I hope that both of you will be happier, though, and perhaps even remain friends.

    Hugs,

    Nina

  • Es
    Es

    So sorry to hear this...i too was in your situation and so i know how hard it can be, but its for the best and at least we are both happy this way and i am now married to a man that actually loves me.

    All the best , you are in my thoughts

    es

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