I’ve had several people whom I’ve considered friends (JW’s) basically drop off the face of this earth.
Not once have I “really” discussed with them my reasons for leaving... Actually come to think of it, only one of them has even asked. I just responded to her that I still love God, & kept it short and simple. I know better than to go into detail.
I truly believed these people were genuine... maybe I just WANT and NEED to believe this. I thought that they knew me better than to believe any gossip that is going around about me. Up until recently this proved true.
I guess deep down, as much as I didn’t want to admit it, I knew this would happen. I know I can exert my efforts & time to people who are altruistic and actually worthy of my time. I have found new friends and concentrated on other things to help me move past this. However, ever so often this overwhelming sense of frustration and hurt comes over me. I give in, call or E-mail these old “friends” to say “Hi” and pretend nothing is wrong. I get an answering machine (coincidence?) and never a response back.
I just can’t let go. I keep thinking maybe they are sick, or on vacation, or their computer broke and that there is GOOD reason for them not returning my calls/e-mails.
When will I get the clue that it’s senseless and actually learn to stick with it? I guess as much as it would hurt, I would just like them to just come out and tell me they don’t want my friendship….that would be easy to understand and for me to grasp.
There are various ways of handling this.
Should I continue to call and bug them….and FORCE them to tell me to lay off. I really hate throwing myself at people though.
Should I just give up on them, like it appears they have done to me?