Dr.Phil's Show on Marriage and those looking for Love- Is Anyone Watching ?

by prophesariah 11 Replies latest jw friends

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  prophesariah

  Dr. Phil's solution to marital & single love life problems is to learn how to fix the one you have or yourself. His New Years resolution for couples is "Get your love fix in 2006". What do you think?
  
  

  The first couple argues about everything. The wife seems to nag and harp on everything her husband does that disrupts the order of the house she has established. He tells them if they each change the way they react and respond they'll see positive changes in their marriage . He also said that if you don't date (have date nights) your marriage will be in a rut and loose it's fizzle. Has anyone read his book "Love Smart" ?

  The next set of people up are two ladies looking to find their own man. One of the chapters in his book is "Bag 'em, tag 'em, and bring 'em home". He is telling them they do not need a man to be whole, however if they really want a man he would help them. He gave them a homework assignment to read his book. It helped them to adjust their list of requirements for a man. It also taught them skills in dating?

  This seems interesting folks. Check it out!!!!!!!!!!
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  Scully

  I have to say that although I enjoyed Dr Phil's series on Family First and his Ultimate Weight Solution plan, his new book doesn't interest me in the least.
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  prophecor

  He tells them if they each change the way they react and respond they'll see positive changes in their marriage .

  Reacting and responded to our mates is an important peice of puzzle. I often wish, after a heated moment, I would have thoughtfully responded to a situation, as opposed to reacting to it. It's deathly easy to react to something, it takes a thinking person to appropriately respond.
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  anewme

  Having been married before I definitely see the error of my former ways.
  
  For me, respect for the core of a man was the issue.
  
  I think men and women should really learn and understand the heart of the opposite sex and respect the differences and be in awe about them.
  
  Men need to feel respected.
  They need to hear you respect their decisions.
  They are fixers. If you present them problems, their inclination is to help you fix your problem. Some women take a real offence when a man tries to fix it when she attempts something. This is his natural nurturing inclination as helper, but if you patiently (with a kind tone) declare you would rather do it yourself, he will leave you alone to do it.
  They are very interested in sex. It is on their minds 24/7. Women have a hard time understanding let alone appreciating this fact about a healthy man. Accept it and appreciate it and enjoy it.
  If you do understand this about a man and be his sex kitten, he will treasure you forever!
  It is a boys dream to find a woman like this...one who understands their sexual side...and who goes beyond that even....makes them feel DESIRED!!!! Yes, desired! Women did you know men crave to be desired too???
  
  In addition to sex men also are very inquisitive and interested in their surroundings. They have a desire to know how everything works. Their minds work very well in this area and so they are able to repair things or at least try. This is a great side to men! I love it that they will take on projects I absolutely dont want to...like car repairs or plumbing or electrical.
  
  About their hearts. Men are capable of being wonderful human beings and great friends. But they must feel respected and appreciated and loved. We women can say almost anything to each other and we get over it. But did you know that men are very sensitive in this area and you cannot treat them like a girfriend.
  Never forget they are not your girlfriend. They are a completely different creature! They are special.
  Never say anything that slights their manliness or self esteem. Do not scold them like they are little boys! (This spells death to your relationship)
  They blossom in the right setting! A good loving woman can bring out the beauty and assist in bringing to birth a happy man on the earth.
  
  Does anyone want to hear what I have to say about women?
  
  Or am I so way off I should shut up?
  
  Better yet, dont tell me and I'll just voluntarily shut up.
  
  I guess it takes years to be a Dr. Phil.
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  HoChiMin

  anewme

  I like your style!

  HCM
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  Jez

  
  anewme: I found your post sexist and full of generalizations. "Be his sex kitten"???? Are you quoting from a 1950s Chatalaine magazine? Men are more interested in sex than woman??? HELLOOOOO! Are you still a JW perchance? What ridiculous dribble.

  Jez
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  tall penguin

  I work in a major book store and there hasn't been much action on this new Dr. Phil book. People just don't seem as interested as they are in his other books.
  I'm had a bit of a read through. If you've read his other books, this one is more of the same.
  tall penguin
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  SWALKER

  be his sex kitten

  Definition of sex kitten: a sexy and kittenish YOUNG woman.

  That leaves out a lot of women!!! I do have very long nails though that can rake across skin and leave claw-like marks...does that count???

  Swalker
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  MegaDude

  Dr. Phil's solution to marital & single love life problems is to learn how to fix the one you have or yourself. His New Years resolution for couples is "Get your love fix in 2006". What do you think?

  I think Dr. Phil is mainly interested in doing therapy on your wallet. The man is a sleeze, professionally and personally. He has screwed people out of money in business deals, been disciplined for sexual improprieties with a 19-year-old female client he tried to keep psychologically dependent, and cheated on his first wife and was a control freak with her, demanding to know where she was at all times. He has established himself as a great brand, but he is now in legal trouble over the diet products he allowed to be marketed under his name that he later admitted he didn't know much about.

  http://www.salon.com/ent/feature/2003/11/24/phil/

  You'll have to watch a short commercial to read the whole article.
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  bigmouth

  I think anewme's post was unusually thoughtful and accurate.
  
  I am more accustomed to being ridiculed for being male, middle-aged and white.
  
  Thank you!
  Pete