JWs who are studying with someone new won't usually tell them all the bad stuff until later, like about the shunning, and the possibility of death due to the ban on transfusions. They know if they told people this stuff up front, most people would show them the door.
Each day a jw wakes up, still existing on this earth, they put on a mask/ lie. It is what is taught through meetings and their litter-ature.
We who have lived the jw life know that we said one thing to the householder all the while knowing our fake concern for their well being was just that, fake. If the householder's "heart condition" was that of non-interest in our message than secretly we thought and conversed to our field misery partner how bad jehovah was going to destroy them at the dreaded armageddon. This was the extent of our concern for them. THIS IS WHAT THEY ARE TAUGHT AND ARE TRAINED TO THINK and FEEL.
This is the main issue I raise with them when the happen upon my porch. "Tell me truly, exactly what your motives are for such professed concern of my life and that of my child?" Needless to say, it isn't long before they can not deny their hidden agenda and turn to leave. At that point I say to them, "that's what I thought...your professed concern for me is not about me, but about what it will gain for you."
Their litter-ature is filled with what their watchtower god is going to do to the rest of the human race IF they don't hop onto the jw wagon, but quick. Their meetings go into more detail about this destruction, with gleefulness, as they discuss how our eyes will be picked out and the earth will be theirs for the taking.
Then they actually have the balls to go out into the public, the very public they gleeful can't wait to be destroyed, and patronize us into thinking they actually are concerned for our welfare.
THIS IS THE EPITAMY OF LYING. And jws are taught and trained well in this task. They becomes skilled in it to the point where it becomes natural.
sKally