OK, A little update on my story. My husband have been sucessfully faded for 5 years. This past Saturday my mom and dad saw my husband with a disfellowshipped friend of ours. The only reason they didn't see me, was because I was a chicken and went and hid from my parents until they left. For the record I am 28 and yes I realize it was RIDICULOUS!! Anyways, my dad tried a suprize sheparding call on us, but we didn't feel like answering the door so we didn't. I spoke to him on the phone last night. He told me he wanted to come by and talk to us. I told him I didn't feel it was necessary. My hubby and I didn't need a lecture or to be preached to. He wasn't going to tell me anything I didn't know already. He asked if we still hang around our disfellowshipped friend. I told him yes. He started into the whole speil about how we aren't to associate with those disfellowshipped. I asked him if he thought someone should be able to change their mind about their religion. He said yes and kept on that we shouldn't associate with them. I told him, I just couldn't do it. I couldn't pretend to not know someone because they make a mistake, I love them too much. Dad said my love wasn't greater than Jehovahs and that Jehovah had people put to death in olden times if they went against his law, at least JW's give you a chance to come back and don't write you off altogether. He said it was loving discipline to not speak to someone. That they usually come back. I told him most of the ones I knew didnt' come back and the ones who did, did it for their family not Jehovah. I told dad, he had to do what his conscience led him to do. If that was turn us into the elders, so be it. I had to do what my conscience let me do and shunning wasnt' one of them. So he reitterated that he and my mom would not speak to me until I changed my attitude. I told him, I loved him unconditionally and wished he felt the same way. That was that. My mom sent me an email this morning stating
"We wanted to respond to the last comment you made on the phone: “I wish you could have unconditional love for me.” We looked up unconditional love and only found it mentioned three times in the Watchtower publications. This is a statement from the Awake: “AMONG the greatest gifts parents can give to their children are unconditional love and a set of values that the parents live by and do not just lecture about. Without proper values, life is little more than a crude struggle for survival. Values give meaning to life. They establish priorities. They set moral boundaries and define rules of behavior.”
We do love you unconditionally so does Jehovah, but as stated above, unconditional love is not without priorities, rules, boundaries and values."
I plan on sending her the Websters dictionary definition of unconditional love. How screwed up do you have to be to look up a definition in the Awake instead of Websters?
Now I am preparing to send a Baptism Nullification letter so I won't be disfellowshipped or disassociated. I will let you all know how it goes. Thanks for all of your support over the past 4 years.