Did the elders ask for sexual details at your Judicial meeting?

by kid-A 43 Replies latest jw experiences

  • kid-A
    kid-A

    I personally know of two cases where the witness being disfellowshipped was asked to provide excruciating details about the exact nature of the "sex crime" that they had committed.

    Having read the secret Elders Manual "Pay Attention to Yourselves and all the Flock" I know this is standard operating procedure for a Judicial Hearing.

    For those that were disfellowshipped for a "sex crime" did the Elders demand all the details and did you comply? Flat out refuse? Or make something up?

  • atypical
    atypical

    I know of at least 5 or 6 such cases. I was privately reproved for porneia, and the elders didn't ask too many sexual details, but they did ask for all the other details, like where it happened (specifically, was it at a house my parents owned), was alcohol involved, etc. The chairman of the committee had an axe to grind with my parents, he was obsessed with their financial situation because they owned two houses at the time. It was ridiculous.

  • minimus
    minimus

    As an elder who was on over a hundred JCs I can tell you I wanted to know as little as possible. But there were 2 other elders to contend with and they could still "go by the book" and ask for details. It was very uncomfortable---especially for the sisters.

  • Gretchen956
    Gretchen956

    This has happened to sisters so many times as to be astounding. We call it elder porn. Afterwards they go home for rousing missionary sex with their wives.

    After my cousin's JC one elder said to her, "my wife has never taken that position in 30 years of marriage." My cousin said, "oh, I'm sorry to hear that."

    dumbasses!

    Sherry

  • kid-A
    kid-A

    We call it elder porn

    LMAO!! Perfect!

  • diamondblue1974
    diamondblue1974

    I look back and laugh now but yes they did.

    They asked whether I penetrated her LMAO...'of course I did....we had sex' was my answer or thereabouts anyway I have a difficult time remembering it. They also asked about whether we had engaged in oral sex and I said no because that was the week before the incident being confessed and decided at the JCM.

    Happy Days!

  • Crumpet
    Crumpet

    No but the sex wasn't my primary offence - plus my Dad was in the room as I was a minor. I only had sex the once - mainly so I could add it to my list of disfellowshipping offences when they time came. I just couldn;t bear to let everyone down as I knew the entire congregation would be hoping for something juicy. I hope they got more pleasure out of the gossip than I did out of the act of losing my virginity.

  • Lady Lee
    Lady Lee

    Yes they did and as a good deluded sister I thought they were trying to help me so I answered them and they DFed me anyways

  • jojochan
    jojochan

    Oh yes, with my little bro's friends' j.c he just simply told them that he had sex which he did., but It was THEM that proceeded to pry into how many times did he "engage in pornea", did he fondle her breasts and the one that got me as *&^*()& stupid was aking him "Was she tight?" (was she a virgin?) and "Where did he deposited his semen".

    That got him wondering about those j.c commities, they really made him feel like dirt after that. Then he came to me, vented his frustrations, then I had no choice but to tell him the real deal, hopefully he got the picture. But might I add that since my dad's an elder I wonder if he also asked those kind of perverted questions.

    On second thought....I don't want to know.

    jojochan.

  • HockeyMullet
    HockeyMullet

    "Afterwards they go home for rousing missionary sex with their wives."

    Now THAT is funny!!!!

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