I have been before two judicial committees for the same offense.
The first time I was new in the truth...........I had recently gotten a divorce, lost my home, went from a lucritive income to welfare.......(5 kids, no child support) and my step dad committed suicide.
I started drinking which led to fornication. woohoo!!!!! lol...........I had a hickey on my neck and one of my sister friends saw it .........and i was before a JC committee.
I don't remember alot about it ............I cried all through it. I was totally distraught. (a good reason to never be before a committee alone..........your head is reeling.) I remember this one brother saying to me
"you was jess ripe for the pickin"
and how men will take advantage of women in distress. It made me feel like scum. The overall feeling I came away with was complete undeserving to be breathing air!!!!
I was Disfellowshipped.
The second time, this one brother wanted details.(one elder waved his hand at him to say Don't go there).......I told him after the first time, I did not think another would make any difference. I told him the brother said there were places in the bible where couples had sex before marriage and it was ok. I acted confused about the whole thing. I cried, but not tears like the first time. I was coached on how to handle myself in a judicial meeting.
This time I was privately reproved.
I won't ever marry a brother.......I find it awkward, the thought of barely kissing someone and making a lifelong commitment.
purps