That's what my wife said to me the night before last. I was making an observation about the way my family and other jws in my life are constantly trying to get me to go to a meeting or read an awake, but they never want to sit down and address the questions I have raised to them. She then asked me why I can't just move on. She said, "you have made your choice, why do you keep talking about it and getting angry?" The conversation went downhill very quickly from there.
I made the point very bluntly that I cannot move on because she is involved so heavily in the religion, which brings it into our lives on a daily basis. She said that she has been very tolerant of my situation, which really got under my skin. Anyway, you can probably imagine the details, I'm sure many have had the same arguments with their jw spouses. I am just wondering if I am justified in bringing up things that bother me about the religion, and talking about it so often.
I realize it is heavy on my mind, but to be fair, I cannot even work in my front yard without seeing someone from my old hall. I am not exaggerating this; I have three neighbors who are witnesses. One has bookstudy at his house, which means he also has meetings for field service. Witnesses are always driving by, including the elders who keep trying to contact me. The brother who has bookstudy at his house is also on our HOA board, and uses that excuse to watch my house like a hawk. I feel that I have to deal with the bad effects of this religion constantly, so to ask why I can't move on seems hurtful.
Anyway, I fear I am going too "Oprah" here, so I will stop. I am just floored by how deeply the roots of the witnesses beliefs can reach into every aspect of someone's life.