It seems to me, gumby, that every club needs rules to keep the tribe from killing each other. Those rules get written down eventually. I like how Jean Vanier puts it, that need for community and need for individuality are both necessary and both conflict. A new community starts out inclusive and flexibile. As the community itself gains value for people, however, they become protective of it. Even to the point of coercing individuals to conform. We see this on our very own forum. We are getting better at chasing away those who are deemed too critical.
Those twelve statements of belief define the community and give it an identity. An identity of which they are no doubt proud. Christopher asked for acceptance and a guarantee of salvation. IF he is ready to accept their explanation, I have no doubt that the average evangelical congregation will accept him with open arms, AND guarantee his salvation. If he is requesting acceptance with no strings attached, then L'Arche is the best community I know for THAT.
I think Jean Vanier found the balance of inclusiveness, something I dream gets included in every club rulebook.