The JWs are a destructive cult and you are being drawn into it by this girl, you have to carefully examine their history and doctrines before you commit yourself.
Im in love with a witness
by BigMann 18 Replies latest jw friends
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beautifulisfree
Hi and welcome to the board! - I was a witness that married a non-witness....One of the few however Since the cult makes life very hard on the witness (and non-witness) by shunning them or talking behind your back. Have the K.H. Elders 'marked' her yet?? If you do get married w/out becoming one of them No witness will be allowed at your wedding . And if her family does go they will risk punishment. You have to get her out!! or you have to get out of the relationship...Because your life will be He!! Trust me...it was He!! for my non-witness husband till I realized he was right. And thank GOD!!
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BigMann
Hey people. First off, thank you for all your support and advice and comments. Even the ones that said bad things about me. Well it's kind of ironic that my relationship ended with this woman today on Good Friday. Basically, we met for lunch and we were sitting on a bench downtown in this building all hugged up. That's when some woman from her hall rolled up on us. She introduced me to her and chatted with her for a few minutes. After she left, my girl flipped out on me. She started going off about how she was gonna be disfellowshipped and how now she hates me. I told her she wasnt going to get disfellowshipped because I know she gets a chance to state her case and if we have to break up then so be it. I wasnt surprised at how she just turned on me cause the truth is I felt she was a lil bit crazy. As much as she wants to blame me, it's both our faults. I should have ran when I had the chance but I ignored everything and everyone. Im not the one to crap on anybody's religion but anyone I talk to and ask about J.W., the word "cult" always come up. I refuse to believe her family and friends would just turn thier backs on her because if they do, they aint no real friends. Now I wonder what I should if she does get disfellowshipped. I told her I wouldnt turn my back on her, but after she flipped out on me and told me she hate me, I just dont know what course of action to take. As it stands right now, I am single again. I know it's gonna hurt. I know Im gonna have a lot of sleepless nights. But if this how it should be then I have no choice to except it. Please give me some feedback, advice, condolences, a shoulder to cry on, or a pat on the back. I would really apriciate it. Thanks.
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merfi
feedback -- This is where we (gently because I know it hurts) say "told you so". She has chosen WT over you, as she would have down the road anyway. Better now than if you had been married...
advice -- Take it as a lesson learned -- stay way the heck away from JW from now on. There are plenty of women out there that can be true to you and their hearts, completely.
condolences, a shoulder to cry on, or a pat on the back --
~merfi
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daystar
Well, lesson learned, huh? No harm in that.
If you find that she gets disfellowshipped, I would recommend making some effort at being a shoulder to lean upon for her, strictly as a friend. She may need it badly. But at the same time, protect your own interests with a good amount of prejudice.
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BigMann
well after the way she acted and the words she said to me, i doubt if she wants my shoulder to lean on. she probaly wants to shoot me.
P.S.- How do I get my pm to work?
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daystar
If you mean how to compose one, you click on the user's name under the "Member" column and then click "Send Message".
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BigMann
Man i feel like crap right now. It hasnt sunk in yet but I know it will eventually. I just dont want to break down at work and start crying. I dont know if i should go home and sulk all night, or if i should go out and get drunk. Either way I want to escape this feeling I have right now.
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daystar
Whatever you think will get you through. I find nowdays that it helps me to psyche myself up, get out of the house, and get some female attention.