by general 41 Replies latest jw friends
Finally-Free
Now I know when to go shopping. I kind of like the idea of the local JWs seeing the smiling face of a known apostate right after a meeting.
Yeah, you could even set up an information booth with tracts and stuff to show why JWs are a CULT.
Hi general
First, i would like say "welcome to the forum"! I can't help it but what you said made me laugh! Like, how dare they!!! What you said kinda reminds me of what happened when a JW who lives in the Senior building in front of me found out i was dating a Witness! BTY, i have never been a JW but am in love with one for the past seven years!!
Anyway, when she found out she accused me of trying to distroy a "good man" and take him away from the church, blah blah blah!! Since then she stakes herself outside his apt. which is just across the street from me as well!! I laugh at her but my boyfriend is afraid of her because he is hiding me from EVERYONE!!
Paula
general
Welcome to our family here! Thanks for the laugh. I can just see elders running in the parking lot!! I do hope you tell your girlfriend at least the basics so they can't hijack her.
I had the pleasure of once having some elders escorted out of a hospital by security, and loved evey minute of it. That was priceless.
shelley
To expand on this a bit more, they have even been known to disassociate people whom they know to be engaging in conduct that is not approved by JWs/WTS. As long as there are two eyewitnesses who can corroborate each other, they make very little effort these days to convene a Judicial Committee™, notify the accused of when the JC is meeting, or even inform them that judicial action has been taken against them or announced at the KH.
And since there were two of them, they'll embellish the story to really drive home the error of your ways to the congregation because this incident will be leaked to the congregation. Not only will you be DAd for joining the military but stories of your wild life with worldly girls and your terrible language and attitude will be talked about amongst the dubs for weeks to come. They'll come off as some kind of avenging warrior fighting the good fight for Jehovah and your name will be dragged through the apostate mud.
You might want to take the iniative at least with your mom and tell her exactly what happened. But that won't stop the witch hunt that will follow. Just be prepared for the shitstorm to follow. It might not affect you personally since you're not associating with the congregation, but your mom will have a tough time. You'll need to show her that your better than all the stories she's going to be hearing.
Thanks for sharing your experience General. I was really getting into that and thought it would end up as a high speed car chase similar to the one in Bullitt. They must be up for the prestigious yet incredibly competitive Jerk Elder of the Year Award ™
Welcome aboard General!
I can understand your desire for your Girl not to know about that part of your past. However, the incident has brought it into view, so it will have to be dealt with. The good news should that all you may have to do at this time is to tell her that you were raised in a cult (that is what it sounds like from the story), and left it years ago. You can probably say that the two assholes were local leaders of that cult who knew you and too stupid to realise that 5 years of not being there constituted a severance from the cult, so, they assumed they had some sort of authority over you. Tell her that beyond that, you are not really all that comfortable discussing that part of your life since growing-up in a high-control cult is not a very nice exprience. hopefully, she get the hint and be satisfied that you thought enough of her to reveal that much.
If you marry her, you'll have to eventually tell her more, but if she loves you, she'll let you do it at your own pace (I hope I've got it right Ladies, if not, feel free to be frank with us guys since our new friend needs good information to base his decisions on).
If the elders invite you to a JC, then they are not following the directions of the mother organization. They've seen enough to conclude that you've Da'd yourself from the organization and have no further need to speak with you. so more than likely you will hear from your mother that she cannot speak to you since you've been announced. If nothing along those lines happens, then you might want to be prepared to get a little more specific with your GF if you marry so that she won't be blind-sided by your mother's conduct. If it does happen, you may have to be prepared to tell her enough that she won't be blind-sided by the attitude of oyur JW relatives anyway.
That's the whole thing as I see it. Keep us posted General, for all our squabbling with each other in some of the threads, we are here for those are walking the same paths we are.
Forscher
I'm grateful most elders aren't that crazy, otherwise I'd never be able to go to the store! Most of them would have run the other way rather than create a scene in public and confront you that way.
Hey General welcome!!!
What a completely bizarre experience. What is wrong with these people? they seriously believe that they are above the law! They have zero sense of decency or tact either.
Reminds me of a time when I was getting my groceries and i had an elder begin to tirade to me about not attending meetings any more. The more he got worked up about it the louder he got until he was yelling at me whilst standing in the fruit and veg section how if I don't start getting back to meetings I am going to die at armaggeddon. I was furious with him over it.
If that was me, I'd have grabbed his hand and twisted it in one of those jiu-jitsu wrist locks, the kind that are painful but don't injure if you don't twist too far. Then while he's moaning I'd have very calmly explained to him that he should not behave like such a domineering jackass. Then I'd have let go and walked away.
There would be very little he could do about that, especially if I'd been careful not to actually cause any sort of physical injury. Even if he called the police they probably wouldn't do anything, after all, THEY were chasing after YOU.
OMG what loosers
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