Thank you guys so much, I will post the rest of this conversation later on, it is one am and I can't sleep but I also don't have the energy to write this out, thank you all for everything.
lola
Lola and her big mouth, stupid, stupid and sooooo stupid
by lola28 55 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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greendawn
You told them the right things is up to them to understand them. I liked the way she said that the 1975 prophecy was nothing really whereas it messed up the lives of so many JWs who were expecting to see the end, and even worse the society did not accept their responsibility for it but they blamed instead the R&F who were the victims.
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deeskis
((((lola)))), hope you sleep well. work out the best strategy for you at this time. If it's better for you to stay in then DENY, DENY, DENY.....
if you've had enough and don't care anymore then you're almost there. I had two elders come to my house telling me that they cared about my future and would i come back to meetings. I said that i thought all organised religion was on the wrong track, people get carried away with their own sense of self importance and i didn't want to have any more to do with the organisation.
that was 23 years ago and I haven't heard anything since, was not disfellowshipped either. Maybe it's better for you to slip under the radar too, but it's your choice.
thinking of you
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Sunnygal41
Lola, retain as much personal power as you can is what I say. First, don't assume anything. Make them spell out what they want to see you for..........did this elder who called explain why they wanted to see you? When they called me for my JC, I went in and let them get thru their priliminary stuff and they asked me if what they had been told was true, and I said yes, and then I told them that I would save them all time and let them know that I had no intention of remaining a witness that I was on my way to a new life and thanked them for their time. I'm glad it was over so quickly. Once I made my mind and heart up that what they had was no longer palatable to me, I didn't bother pretending anymore. I know this way is not for all. I have great respect for those who can do the fade thing.........to me it takes too much energy and I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop. No one but my mom has talked to me in years about making a come back. I guess they have heard it through the grapevine just how detestable I find their practices.
Terri
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Tea4Two
Two brothers from the cong (one an Elder) that I attended came by to Invite me to the Memorial and to tell me my best friend from the cong is moving out West.....I would have invited them in except I was still in PJs.
I was surprised to see them as the friend that is moving knows how I feel about the Hpypocrisy of the Borg (pedophiles, UN/DPI, Malawi/Mexico) and surely she has told everyone by now.
It is not an easy thing to tell the Brothers and Sisters just how you feel about the Borg because there they stand on your door step with a warm smile on their face and sincere concern for you spiritually. But those close to me that I have told, accuse me of attacking the Watchtower org. even in the face of proof. The change of TONE that lola speaks of is not friendly at all. I always thought of the WTS and God as separate but some seem to think that God and the Borg are one and the same. Hence, that is where the problem lies. -
Dr Jekyll
you got balls or boobs or whatever..
hehe, boobs.lola
I cant see boobs in lolas pic :(
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Good Girl or Bad Girl?
For those of you who say just to hell with it, disassociate yourself or do something drastic so they will disfellowship you and quit pretending to be something you are not, do you have family in "The Truth"? Do you have little children who love you dearly but will be taken away from you so fast your head will spin? Do you have parents and siblings with whom you enjoy spending time and love to get together, a family who will literally be torn in half if something were to happen to you, as people struggle to take sides even though they won't want to?
I'm getting banned from family gatherings now and I've not done anything more than miss some meetings and make new [non-Witness] friends who are surely bad association! It's already beginning and I haven't even done anything yet!!!!
I love my sister's kids so much and it melts my heart whenever they hug and kiss me and call out my name in delight when they see me and beg me to read to them or play with their toys. And they are already being taken away from me... My heart literally hurts when I think about how much I miss them.
Lola, do you have family in the organization? Lola, I'm impressed with the way you handled that phone conversation because even though you think you said too much, you stood up for yourself, and you sounded very logical and probably stayed calm too. Hang in there, Lola, and be true to yourself and do what is right for YOU.
GG
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lola28
Oh GoodGirl
I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, I have no family in and I can't even imagine what it must be like for those of you that do. I don't know what I'm going to do yet but I do know that I won't lose nearly as much as some of you have. I am so sorry and I feel for you, I wish there was something I could do to make things better, I really do.
lola
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What-A-Coincidence
about standing for yourself...great if it's to your advantage. If not, don't do it.
will standing for youself bring massive pain or massive pleasure???
bottom line: Ask yourself this before making a decision like that - What is the worst thing than can happen to me??? Then go from there.
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lola28
Or better yet......I'll come to you. Put on a dress and wig and show up to the JC meeting on your behalf. Forget the panty hose though. I'll show them what happens when we open a "can of whoop ass" down here in Texas.
LOL, I would actually pay good money to see that, when will you be getting here? You can stay in my closet and we can go to the mall to get a dress for you, I'm sure we can do something with your hair.
**hugs** thanks for the offer.
lola