What do you think about this?

by serendipity 13 Replies latest social relationships

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  serendipity

  I talked to my 'ex' the other day and he "enlightened" me. He said he was going out with a 'plain jane' and they were deciding which restaurant to go to. He mentioned he wanted a good steak, so she recommended Del Frisco's, which is a pricey steakhouse. He didn't realize how pricey until they saw the menu, and felt he was taken advantage of, intentionally.

  He indicated that he didn't think that a 'plain jane' would do something like this. So in his mind, plain women would be so grateful for male attention that they wouldn't jeopardize it by suggesting an expensive restaurant and pissing off their date.

  ( He's an average looking guy himself. )

  Do you think this is a common attitude among men?
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  WLG

  
  Not really valid IMHO, if you're accustomed to really great food, it usually comes with a really great price. If someone says to me "GOOD STEAK", I think of something like Ruth's Chris or Del Frisco's, not Ryan's or Golden Corral. And actually...that restaurant is only a little above average for the type of restaurant it is...try Bluepointe in Atlanta or the Inn at Little Washington...$150.00 per person.
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  luna2

  Dunno about that attitude being common, but I know my ex probably felt that way. He was pretty much of a pig in the way he thought of women, though.
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  cyd0099

  His attitude is douchebaggery at the highest level. You take your signifigant other out because you want to show them a good time, please them, and to be honest, to maybe get a little at the end of the night.
  
  I say S.O. because I have no expectations of sex in the early stages of dating. If it happens , though, I'm cool with it.
  
  
  But then, I'm having tequila for lunch.
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  unclebruce

  oo if you try that trick on me serendipity I'll just have ta reach across the tale and thump ya right then and there! lol .. not really - like cyd said, the guy's being a prick ... which probably is common amoung men. We're human too.

  ps: what do you think of burger king for a first date?
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  greendawn

  So does that mean that relations are commercialised, with prettier women deserving more expensive offerings and gifts? That doesn't sound right, what about their personalities and characters.
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  cyd0099

  Actually my newly-minted ex said she would meet her blind dates at the KFC / A&W combo "restaurant". Now that's class, eh?
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  serendipity

  
  Hi Uncle Bruce,

  for you, Burger King would be fine. The good company and a decent Whopper would compensate for the atmosphere.

  Hi Greendawn,

  My ex is very superficial. He was never happy with my appearance, even though he's average himself. It doesn't surprise me that HE would associate a woman's worth with her appearance. It's his loss though.

  Realistically there is a commercial element to relationships. Many men expect sex because they pay for dates. What's the difference between that and prostitution? That's why I start paying for dates somewhere around the third to fifth date. I don't want men expecting sex from me or feeling that they're being taken advantage of.

  I don't like the attitude, but that's the way it is, so I work around it.
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  serendipity

  
  Hi cyd,

  The KFC would be a safe place to meet a blind date. What else can you say about that?

  Well, now that I think about it, it could be a test to see if the guy could resist making lame breast remarks while eat fried chicken breasts. Interesting strategy...
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  Spectrum

  I'll spend money on a girl according to how much she appreciates the gesture and how much respect she has for me.