I have now spoken with a couple of worldly people regarding the practise of disfellowshipping.
Having been out of the org for a few months I now feel confident enough to expose the things that I knew were wrong. D/F was one of the biggest issues I had. The funny thing is, I never was D/F`d or had a close relative d/f`d. But I just felt the absolute injustice of it. As soon as my beutiful kids were born I just knew that I could NEVER treat my own flesh & blood in such a cruel manner over some of the trivial 'sins' that they may have comitted in the future.
Anyway, I have spoken in detail as to how it all works & the effects that it has on people. One person just sat stunned as I explained what happens. I did this in the fairest way that I possibly could. No hate or malice. I just told the facts. This person, I believe, was absolutely shocked that this happens regularly to people all over the civilised world. He was preofoundly effected by what I told him, & saddened. He too is a parent.
The other person again sat in shocked disbelief. At the end of our discussion I highlighted how I just could not have treated my own family in the required WTS way. She agreed and said the words "I`d rather rip my heart out".
I now feel anger that I ever bought into such an unloving organisation. I feel that you dont really learn in the 'bible study arrangement' just how the d/f law is practised. Its not until you see time after time just how cruel & unloving it really is. I have known a mother who looked like her soul had been ripped out because one of her kids was d/f``d. She just always looked lifeless. Some say that the eyes are the window to the soul. Its true that you can tell a lot from the eyes of a person. Well, this sister never had a soul left to look at after all the emotions she had obviously gone through.
I suppose she had had her `heart ripped out` just like my friend said.
Bastards.