When I speak to my old dad, I have to repeat about 3 times because he is deaf in one ear, but also he likes to make everyone repeat, becuse it's a bad habit he always had. He always did that even when he had good hearing. It's as if he has to see me to understand me. If he can't see me, no matter how loud I'll talk or how slowly I'll talk, he will make me repeat. But once a converstation is going, he understands every word, no matter how loud or softly I speak. He does that with everyone. It's the first words that he never understands, as if he isn't ready to listen.
When I speak to my old mom, she understands well, but doesn't listen to what I say. Then if I make her repeat what I said, she will say something slightly different, that I didn't say, basically changing the whole context.
Every day, I try to keep my calm when I talk to them, but it's always the same. I have to repeat and talk very s l o w l y s o t h a t h e w i l l u n d e r s t a n d, and for my mom I have to tell again and again that that's not what I said. My old aunt is the same way, if someone tells her something, she will repeat it differently, thus changing the whole story or context. So whatever she says, she finds a way to distort it.
They are good parents, but gee, they can irritate me, and I have to make a big effort not to lose my calm.
My mom is very nice, and every time I go over, she will ask my 5 times if I had dinner and if I want something to eat. I'll tell her, thank-you mom but I already ate. Then she will say are you sure you aren't hungry, I can give you some more....and I'll say, yes I'm sure. I ate and I'M not hungry anymore and thanks alot. But she will repeat this about 3 or 4 times while I'm there, and even when I leave.
I know that they are old, but gee my blood pressure goes up when I go there.....Is there such a thing as a too good mother?
I was just wondering if any of you sometimes get frustrated dealing with old people.