This "freak'in" Divorce class from another church - damn'it...

by Confucious 18 Replies latest jw friends

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  Confucious

  Just wanted to take a second to vent...

  Me and best friend got the same royal middle finger up the ass when it came to our marriages.

  My friend's marriage was much like mine. But I'll give you the nutshell of mine only...

  Was married 11 years. Pioneered full-time with my wife for 10 years.

  Had marriage problems - and the elders basically gave us the middle finger.

  If they had only spend 1/8th of the time they spent tracking us down to disfellowship us in REAL HELP.

  In other words, in our deepest time of need - they did shit.

  So the other day, I'm at this Presbyterian Church - and the church has these "summer camp programs" for people who are divorced.

  Basically, they had classes like - "Getting over the Hurt," "Adjusting to your new life as a Single Person," and "Dealing with a Split Family."

  They had all this support.

  And I'm thinking like the Watchtower has CRAP for real life difficulties.

  Damn it... this church had all these programs to help people with REAL LIFE problems and all the Watchtower could do is just spend their time on how to disfellowship your ass.

  I mean, where was the Watchtower Corporation when I was going through my divorce. NOT ONE shepharding call for me or my friend to try to repair our marriages.

  Where was Watchtower Incorporated when we got divorced to give us support.

  Ok... I'm done. Just pisses me off and needed to get it off my chest.
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  mrsjones5

  And I'm thinking like the Watchtower has CRAP for real life difficulties

  I totally agree. The Watchtower is totally crappy when it comes to really supporting it's followers. They don't have a real support system other than totting their damn mags and books. I have gotten more support from my church than I or my parents ever did from the elders at the hall.

  Josie
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  inbyathread

  Well if you had just followed the elders counsel you wouldn't be in this situation. You wouldn't require any special single parent classes and such.

  Sorry, just had to say it. It's what we would have heard from and of the friends™.
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  Honesty

  That's because the Christian churches care about people and real life problems.

  The only care the WATCHTOWER™ has is are you attending all the indoctrination sessions and peddling their blasphemous litterture.

  The proof is in the pudding:

  WATCHTOWER™ = High Control Group commonly referred to as a cult because they deny access to Christ and His love.
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  lawrence

  Yeah the wife and I pioneering expected support, yeah! WE got it, we were told to support the arrangement. Arrangement - is that like suspenders and a potty bag?
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  candidlynuts

  lmao the only help i got from the elders was " do more! do more! do more! get more hours in, study more, get to more meetings, (cant remember if they actually said pray more.. i dont think so) "

  real constructive advice when my world was falling apart.
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  serendipity

  ((( confucious ))) I wonder what the excuse is? It's the elder's job?
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  Confucious

  It's not the elder's job to get involved with personal relationships.

  Just pisses me off.
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  gumby

  Confucious ye bastard....doncha know when witness men become elders they are pro's at all matters of life? Gee wiz, they have all that information at hand if they need it right in the volumes, elders manuels, and other literature when problems arise.

  They hear your story, say they will meet with you, then they go home and look up some scriptures and articles in a publication, then when they meet with you again they relate this to you, expect you to abide by the info, then assume your problems should go away. If they don't go away, you didn't follow the advise and it's your fault.

  Besides that...through prayer and Jehovah's spirit........your problems should vanish.........ya spiritual rusty knucklehead!

  Gumorespiritualthanconfuciousis
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  Bumble Bee

  confucious

  I hear ya. My brother was in a similar situation. He repeatedly asked for help, asked for a BS, asked for help getting to meetings and service etc. It never happened. The only time they paid any attention to him was at his JC.

  BB