crush at work

nomoreTRUTHplz

OK advice needed. I am currently separated from my husband, have 2 children and we will end up divorcing. I have met a man at work that I am getting a crush on. Problem: he's 13 yrs. older than me, going through a divorce and has 4 kids.

I probably shouldn't rush into any relationship, especially with someone also going through a divorce, should I?

I know on paper the answer seems obvious, but there's just something about him I really like. And how do I know if interest is mutual if I were to decide to persue it?

Thanks. I had to get that out.

cyberdyne systems 101

When emotions get involved its difficult to take a logical choice. The strictist logical answer is give yourself time to get over everything, but then nothing is ever so clear cut is it. Its nice to be wanted and have attention returned to you, so thats only natural for you to have that need. I really think despite advice people give us we tend to do what feels right to us anyhow. Sure it could bring its own stresses or it could make you happy - who knows, only you know if your ready to handle the responsibility of another relationship and whether you need time alone to sort out your head. My only advice is to think about it, and dont jump in with both feet until your ready.

Wish you well

CS 101

nomoreTRUTHplz

Right CS I need some time to sort out my own issues and not jump right in. That's also what scares me about someone else going through divorce. If they don't sort out their problems they would just carry into a new relationship. The good thing is we hardly ever see each other. In fact I have been working there a year now and have just now met him. Talked with him a couple times and started liking him. So I really wouldn't be able to rush in as we don't run into each other much.

I need to ask again though, how can I tell if he if is interested too? I'm pretty shy and married young so don't have a lot of experience with this.

ballistic

Women mostly do the choosing nomoretruth. Show a keen interest and he will make it obvious if he's not interested.

Dr Jekyll

Relationships at work can end up so messy.

working together and then living together you're gonna get sick of the sight of one another secondly if it all goes wrong you still have to work together or at least in the same building. that in itself can be really awkward and one of you might have to give up their job if it all goes wrong.

I had to learn the hard way never to date anyone in your own congregation or work place.

Frog

i say enjoy the fun of having a crush for a while, but since it seems you yourself are still quite young, i wouldn't quite resign myself to jumping straight out of one relationship into another, there's a whole other world out there that you're yet to experience :) enjoy being single for a bit if you can...but like i said enjoy your crush, they can be fun...but don't get too wound up where it could or should go at this stage :) x

serendipity

I wouldn't date someone at work. (Been there, done that, had to leave.) If the relationship doesn't work out, then it's very awkward and very hard to deal with. He's much older than you. And 4 kids! Yikes! You can figure out what you like about him (if there's anything beyond a physical attraction) and how he makes you feel. File that info away. It will come in handy later.

pooka

If you work in diferent departments I would say go for it who cares about age. No if you are in close quarters I would say just be friends, close friends and then see where it goes. If you start dating and it ends......oh boy, that might open a can of worms you dont want opened. Good luck

free2beme

How about a one night stand of mad sex! Just kidding, but you know it happens.

G Money

6 kids! No more free time or money. My $.02 says run, be single for 2 years, sort your stuff out. Odds are against it working but you can have your fun, just don't move in together, get married or have more kids.

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