Anyone Remember Dr. Jim Howard, Bethel Doctor in the 80s??

by Seeker4 14 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Seeker4
    Seeker4

    Jim Howard was a psychiatrist who became a JW. He was from a congregation near mine here in Vermont, and I knew him long before he was invited to become the physician at Bethel. He had a lovely wife and a terrific young teenaged daughter at the time. This was a well-educated, literature-loving family - not quite typical of the average JW, and I've often wondered what happened to them.

    The last I heard, they left Bethel after a few years, concerned that it wasn't quite a normal way to bring up a highly intelligent, artistic teenage girl. I understand they moved to Scotland, but I could be wrong there.

    A couple of interesting experiences that involved the Howards. I once had a district convention talk where I was supposed to have a couple of interviews, one with a husband and another with a wife and child. I knew the Howards well, and thought their experience would be a lot more interesting than most others, so I combined the two interviews into one with one family, the Howards. My wife and I even went to Bethel and spent a couple of days with the Howards in order to get the part rehearsed.

    Well, the convention part went fine, or so I thought. But the Circuit Overseer who was the Convention Coordinator evidently was royally pissed off that I had not interviewed two seperate families, but had combined them into one. He never mentioned it to me at the convention (even though he rehearsed the part with me and the Howards!) but when I got back home, my CO, who was a terrific guy, asked me what in the world I'd done to upset the Convention Coordinator? He told me the guy had been really ticked off at my part and had recommended to the Society that I not have another part at a DC!

    I explained to my CO what I'd done and why, and he ran interference for me. The next year I actually got two DC parts!

    I don't remember the name of the CO who was the pissed off CC. A couple of things I do remember: he was a chunky, bully type, who had every brother rehearse his part in front of him during the Convention (like you want to start changing things then??), and he really had some brothers sweating it big time. I also seem to remember that he had just recently been widowed, and that he found himself re-assigned to Alaska, as it seems he was something of a notorious prick.

    A few years back I posted a very long piece about a discussion I had with the CO who ran interference for me. Every year or so someone brings that post bttt. That CO is now a congregation elder in CA, and very disturbed with what he's seen happen in the WTS. It was a great insider's discussion I had with him for several hours, and what he said against the WTS really blew my mind, which is why I posted it on JWD.

    Another thing that Jim Howard did was have a huge influence on how the WTS was dealing with Witnesses who had been sexually abused in their pasts (not talking about congregation pedophiles in particular, but they are included). He was at Bethel when many, many of the friends began coming forward with accounts of their childhood abuse, and he made a major change in how we dealt with them. I spent many hours with him on the phone, getting his direction on this. I'm also thinking that there may eventually have been a backlash against some of that, the WTS concerned that people were depending too much on "worldly sources" instead of WTS sources. But there were some very good articles written at the time in the Society's literature about how to deal with abuse survivors.

    Jim was also a leading expert on alcohol and drug abuse. He created the alcohol and drug abuse treatment program at the Brattleboro Retreat in Brattleboro, VT prior to becoming a Witness and going to Bethel, and he was highly regarded in his field. I'm not sure if he was responsible for the change, but at one time a Witness could be disfellowshipped for attending AA meetings, or a study could be prevented from baptism if they attended AA meetings, as the WTS's official view was that AA was a false religion.

    In a conversation with Jim once, he shocked me by telling me that in some congregations elders were attending AA meetings with congregation members who were alcoholic. I'm not sure if the WTS has again hardened their view since then, but essentially Jim was letting me know that the Society had - very quietly, as usual - changed their stance on AA at the time.

    Thought you might find the above interesting, and if anyone knows how the Howards are doing, I'd be interested in hearing.

    S4

  • What-A-Coincidence
    What-A-Coincidence

    I remember him. He did not seem like your regular bethelite. He did not seem happy there. He just did his job. Is he still in the Org?

  • Seeker4
    Seeker4

    That's what I'm trying to find out. I wouldn't be surprised if he had some trouble with the level of ignorance at Bethel amongst the "faithful slave." I think he might have just kept that to himself, and moved on. He didn't stay there all that many years.

    S4

  • JW_Researcher
    JW_Researcher

    I remember him as well.

    Once I dropped something very heavy on my toe...the toe started to swell and hurt a lot.

    The good doctor heated a paper clip and made a hole in my toenail, thus relieving the pressure.

    He knew he had reached the other side of the toenail when I sat up screaming as the hot paper clip touched the skin under my nail.

    I'm not certain who the procedure made more uncomfortable...Dr. Howard or me. J

    He really was a great guy. A gentle, caring man.

  • Highlander
    Highlander

    I don't want to hijack the thread, but you mentioned it was previously a DF offense to attend AA meetings? do you recall any WT resources/literature regarding that? I'd love to show that to some jw family members at the appropriate time.

  • Seeker4
    Seeker4

    Highlander,

    Having been seperated from my still-JW ex-wife, and divorced almost exactly one year, I don't have access to most of my Witness literature. Someone else will have to research that. Some old timers may remember this as well.

    Blondie, time to hit that search key!!

    S4

  • blondie
    blondie

    AA meetings were not a DFing offense officially. But each BOE makes their own internal rules.

    Because some meetings end with a recitation of the Lord's prayer, some could consider it religious, but anyone who ever was associated with a 12-step program knows that "proselytizing" is forbidden and that each person finds their religious expression outside AA. I even went to meetings where "God" was replaced with "Higher Power."

    I won't say that some JWs say that going to AA or other support groups is forbidden, but that is their personal opinion.

    My experience and that of others over the last 30 years has been that it is an individual choice to participate in AA, Al-Anon, ACOA, NA, or similar 12-step group. The WTS does use a disclaimer saying they don't endorse the either. They do warn against socializing with the group members.

    ***

    g92 5/22 p. 12 Help for Adult Children of Alcoholics ***

    "I turned to a group called Adult Children of Alcoholics and began to apply some of their therapy. Workbooks helped change twisted views. I kept a journal to unearth additional feelings, feelings that had been buried for years. I listened to self-help tapes. I watched a TV seminar by a man who was himself an adult child of an alcoholic. The book Feeling Good, from the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine, helped me to build self-esteem and improve my distorted thinking patterns.

    ***

    Family book chap. 12 p. 146 You Can Overcome Problems That Damage a Family ***

    In some lands, there are treatment centers, hospitals, and recovery programs that specialize in helping alcoholics and their families. Whether to seek such help or not is a personal decision. The Watch Tower Society does not endorse any particular treatment. However, care must be exercised so that, in seeking help, one does not become involved in activities that compromise Scriptural principles.

    ***

    g82 12/8 p. 19 An Alcoholic in the Family—What Can You Do? ***

    Where

    Can Help Be Found?

    Some family members, along with the alcoholic, turn for help to an alcoholism treatment center, where the family also may be enrolled in a program of therapy. How can this help? Until now, family members may have repressed painful memories and feelings. Not being in touch with their own feelings makes it hard for them to understand the alcoholic’s. So, often the basic goals of therapy are: to recognize and accept one’s own feelings (to overcome negative feelings you must first face them); to understand the feelings of the other person and how one’s actions affect him or her emotionally; and to apply this insight, thus learning how best to act.

    ‘But what if the alcoholic refuses to go for help?’ you ask. Whether the alcoholic does so or not, you may need help to face and overcome your own negative feelings. For such help, some families turn to local groups made up of family members of alcoholics. Such groups attempt to provide understanding and insight into the problems of living with an alcoholic. Of course, such groups do not exist in all parts of the world.

    Whether to seek the help of such groups or not is a personal decision. Of course, a person who is desirous of living by Bible principles would want to be careful that he did not become involved in activities that would in any way cause him or encourage him to compromise the Scriptural principles he lives by. Also, a person who is one of Jehovah’s Witnesses would first consult those in the Christian congregation who have spiritual qualifications to help in these matters.

    ***

    w83 5/1 p. 10 Drinking Problems—What Can the Elders Do? ***

    What

    about professional help? The alcoholic may require such help to recover. Of course, the elders would not want to recommend a particular form of treatment—that is up to the person involved.

    Blondie

  • Seeker4
    Seeker4

    Thanks, Blondie! What I remember, as a young (26-year-old) newly appointed elder, was that another elder, a brother with a totally hardline, very aggressive personality named Claude Burkett, was the one who took that attitude toward AA. Claude was a company man all the way, and I would assume he had "something in writing," as we used to say, to have WTS backing for his stand.

    Interesting that you can find nothing on that. It's sort of like the "disfellowshipped having to sit in the back of the hall" rule. I never found any contemporary backing for that from the 70s to the 90s. I used to love to shoot down elders who demanded that of the disfellowshipped!

    S4

  • Highlander
    Highlander

    Blondie,

    Thanks, it sure doesn't seem to take you long with your research,, much appreciated.

    I find it interesting how they seem to 'qualify' the decision of joining a group, by stating you should be careful so as not to damage your spiritual interests.

    In my opinion when something is qualified to an extent that, only 'true christians', only 'lovers of jehovah' would choose such a course or action is just another way of saying that you can't

    take part in, belong to, or do(whatever the subject being discussed is)

  • blondie
    blondie

    S4, that is why I knew there wasn't anything recently (within 30 years) in writing. I had already done my research then in preparation for the "AA is forbidden" statement. They could not find anything either. That doesn't stop individual JWs from forcing their personal opinion onto others as an official "rule."

    Sitting in the back.......in the congregations I went to it would have been impossible to find a seat in the back just before the meeting started. DF'd had to sit in the first 5 rows where no one sat as if the speaker at bad breath.

    Blondie

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